am i a horrible person ?

Question

Ok so my mum doesnt get along with my babys daddy and i am due in 2 weeks.. he lives 4 hours away from me and my mum is only allowing him to stay for the birth and then he has to leave , i asked her if he could stay until we can get our own house and her answer straight away was NO. If it wasnt for me she wouldnt have her house because i pay for basically everything !! , even spend my last money on smokes for her and ive been helping her out and she cant even do a little thing for me.. i offered to stay with her to help her until she got a full time job to help her out and as long as my boyfriend could stay and she still said no , so i said well im going to have to move to where he is living because he has no where to live here... and she said "so i can be out on the streets" .. i think its very selfish of her that i have to keep my baby away from hims daddy to help pay my mums bills and shes not even willing to help me like im helping her. Im going to feel horrible leaving her by herself and taking the baby away from her. Im only 17 so i cant get my own house

rebeccaann11 · Answer

Does he have a job? My dad is in the law enforcement. When i started dating my childrens dad. They didnt like him. They would actually do random drug test. But after they got to know him they love him.  Does he have a job? Do you have any siblings? I ask because if you are the only child or the only one home. Maybe she is worried she will lose her baby now your getting older and starting your own family.

kaylalala1233 · Answer

She doesnt like him because she said hes not going to be a father and hes going to live here for free.. so shes assuming stuff that havent even happened. Ive tried having heart to heart and her answer was straight away no , me and her are both in a situation , she needs help and i need help yet im the only one thats helping. She told me to work it out with my bf and go and have a happy life with him as if shes jealous or something ? . She doesnt understand hes my childs parent as much i am.

ravenamaru · Answer

Regardless Of If You're Going To Be Moving Out To Be With The Father Or Not, You Need To Get Out Of That Home. She Acts Like She's An Addict Of Some Sort. Its Not Your Responsibility To Take Care Of Your Mother, Do Not Feel Guilty. Its Not Just For You Its For The Baby

rebeccaann11 · Answer

I dont know your situation. But when my sister got pregnant with a guy they hated. My sister begged and whined and cried for him to move in. My parents didnt want them in their house. He was a loser. Didnt have a job. So after my sister whinned enough my mom finally said yes. He went between jobs. Would get fird with a month or so. He never paid for anything. My parents finally had enough when he brought drugs into the house. 

Why doesnt your mom like your boyfriend?

Leah_Dan · Answer

better off*

Leah_Dan · Answer

Assuming he's a good guy, you're right to stick by your boyfriend. He's the father of your child and your mum is being selfish. Also, that's emotional blackmail and that's not right. Do what's best for your new family. If your mum is a good person she will get over it. If not, sorry to say, but you're better of making it without her. 
In my opinion, do what you want and what's best for YOU. It doesn't seem healthy for you to stay where you are being used. You've got yourself and new family to think of. You're mature enough.

mamanature · Answer

Everyone argues at some stages in ther relationships, my parents actually told me if we didnt argue it would be weird lol... as long as the arguments only stay verbal! My partner is 21 and still learning to grow up, his very respectful just needs to grow up in the work matter lol... his lazy but my parents understand it completely cause all my brothers did the same lazy stuff my partner is doing.. you need to just maube have a heart to heart to her, maybe then she will realise but don't let her make you feel bad so she can get her way!

Channi7 · Answer

I Agree She Doesn't Have To Like Him But She Should AT Least Be Willing To Make Some Sort Of Compromise For The Sake Of You And Her Grandchild Considering How Much You've Done For Her If Not Then You Gotta Do What You Gotta Do For Your Family That You're Starting.

kaylalala1233 · Answer

Thats exactly how i feel.. shes being selfish ! , me and him do argue sometimes but i had said to her the least she can do for me is give it a chance... because he might grow up once the baby is here. And if he hasnt grown up then i would understand if she didnt allow him to stay

missi8 · Answer

Just tell her that eather she should allow yur babbys dad to stay with U guys and he can just keep away from your mother and U guys will hurey to find ur own place or U would have to move to him..eather way U would have to move out when U guys would find ur own place, dosnt seem like she clearly understand the problem. Tell her that she should get a job now if she dosnt allow U guys to live togetter so she can support her self. But be nice to her

mamanature · Answer

Also she doesnt have to get along with him but she does need to respect the man of your choice, especially if his a good guy. If his not and treats you like crap I'd be doing exactly what your mum is.

mamanature · Answer

Your mum sounds like a little child, I would leave to be with the father,  she can't even allow the father of her grandchild stay.. even if its separate rooms is ridiculous. Your financially supporting her & she throws it in your face and makes you feel bad.. she doesnt have to agree with the choices your making but honestly you guys have a child together now & she just has to accept it. Its best for any child in a healthy relationship for ther parents to be together, if she can't grow up about it, I'd leave. Thats my personal opionion though.