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arguement. am I wrong
Me n my hub gt into it he calld me to tell me tht in august they're throwing his gma a 90th bday party. Its at the end of August I'm due August 16th. His mom said its her dying wish to have all her kids n grandkids there. He told his mom " u know she's due in august" n she said " I know bt the baby will be home whn u get bck u dnt know hw long ur gma will be alive" I took it as she was sayn regardless if u just had a baby n she needs help ur gmas party is more important. O n he's frm Florida so tht means he's traveling. N who knows I may end up over due. Do u guys thnk I'm being insensitive and selfish. I want honest opinions bt dnt be rude lol
Did you explain all of this to him. He needs to know that you need to know what your getting yourself and baby into. This would be a great time for yall to meet. Especially with a baby. Just talk to him about it and pray on it and everything will work out for the best
His mom knows I'm expecting she gave me advise and she's excited abt the baby. His sister is to "busy"with work tht she ddoesn't have time to tlk n I dnt even know if his youngest sister n brother know he rarely tlks to thm. Its basically me him n my family even with the wedding they're in it bt I wnt see thm until the day of the wedding which I'm nt ok with I want to spend some time b4 our wedding to get to know everyone
That was a good compromise. And no you didnt look to be the bad person. Sometimes ita hard to say no to people and sometimes ita just those people that are out there to try and please everyone else.
We made a compromise tht he'll go for the party n come back the next night. Bt I jst didn't like to be made as the bad person in the situation n I was nt tryn to be nasty because once he comes bck its straight to wrk so he wnt pick up the slack of me doing it alone for 2 days with less to no slp @kennimae its florida n we're in virginia
I understand your not married yet. But lets say if you talked about going and asked him that would be a great way to meet his family and let them know your expecting. Maybe they will support you. If your certain you dont want to go try to understand that thats his grandmother and life is short. My grandmother passed away and I regreted not being there for her when it was most needed. See if it is anyway that he could go up there and then fly back when you feel like your in labor.
I just didn't feel like its ok to leave me after 2 wks of our baby being born bt I never told him no I jst let him know I felt some type of way with his mom comment as if my babies birth is nt as important because his gma is getn older
Ohhhh Okayy well that changes things a bit then. Idk how I'd feel. Hope it works out for you guys! :)
I think it's messed up that you didn't get invited! You guys are married right? So that makes you family.. I would be really upset if I was in your situation because I just think that's messed up, he got invited but you didn't. I think that's rude.
We aren't married yet we pushed it back because of the baby. I've only tlkd to his mom on the phone i haven't met his family face to face
I wasn't invited to this party idk her and she doesn't know abt me and he's not taking his daughter frm another mother either its jst him. If I didn't have the baby I wldnt go because I dnt want to go into labor dwn there and if he leaves me my baby will be 2 wks if I have her or him on time bt I may deliver b4 my due date. I jst didn't thnk it was fair I carried and jst pushed a baby out and have to depend on my family until he gets bck. Bt he sees it as me being selfish because he doesn't get to see his family n tht cld be her last bday with thm
I dont think youre being insensitive at all. My hubbys best friend wants him to go to Vegas for the whole week before my due date and I said no. I agree that maybe you could go if you feel up to it, especially if it means a lot to him and her.
I also think you should go unless you go in to labor sooner. If you so happen to labor while over there then so be it. Neither of you should be selfish your married and all family. I'm sure there's a middle ground somewhere
I dont think your being insensitive. I would see if they could video call him in to the party that way he is still a part of it. Pretty much I think it seems like she is making him choose and thats not fair to him either.
Well in my opinion I think you should go. Like what if she does pass away and you feel bad because she didn't get to meet the baby. He's your hubby so that makes her your family to. If it was me and I didn't go then I would feel soooo bad if she passed and didn't get to see the baby.. but that's just how I would feel. Hope everything works out and goes good, good luck hun :)
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