Not really a Q. But looking for support & friends

[lindseyskyler]

I'm 21. 22 weeks pregnant with my fourth. Looking for a lot of support, as I don't have any family that's close to me, the babies dad is in denial and is against me keeping our little boy. My other three children share the same dad, we were together for 3 years, and married.  He was abusive, both emotionally and physically. I was 16 when that started.  This babies dad is a great guy, but this is his first.  He insists I must have cheated on him because there's no way it's his... Life is stressful right now. My other three kids are 3, 2 and my youngest just turned 2 yesterday.

[Septembermommy09]

Yep three boys

[Tricia0818]

If he chooses not to be in your sons life than its his loss. It's your choice to go for child support or anything like that. Yes I do think his feelings will change once he is there for the birth and holding him. My husband worries about money and giving our boys what they need and want all the time. He wants our boys to have the best life possible and better than his and my life was growing up. My oldest has a different father and he has walked in and out of my 6 year olds life which is unfair to my son. My husband has taken on the roll of daddy for him and I got lucky. Not all men at ready but that doesn't mean it's right that they walk away from their part of the responsibility.

[lindseyskyler]

thank you. :) my three year old (almost 4) has caught me crying, and asks if jimmy hurt Carson's feelings.  Or if I miss him.  Etc. it's hard. Crazy how smart they are though! Lol

[lindseyskyler]

i know he's scared.   I have asked him to be there when Carson is born.  He has helped me pick out first and middle names.  He just doesn't think we can give him what he deserves etc. which is probably a concern a lot of first time dads have.  He still doesn't want to be in his life, but is going to be at the hospital with us until were discharged.    And has agreed to help with him, etc. and what he chooses to do afterwards is his call. I know eventually with time his feelings will change. A lot of people say to take him to court. Get a court ordered DNA test and let him pay support etc.  but I don't want to force him into something he doesn't want when there's a chance he could decide on his own.

[Tricia0818]

Most guys who are in denial like that are really just scared. My husband did it with our first. I told him if he wanted a dna test he could pay for one. Still doesn't give him the right to accuse you of cheating

[ambsss]

I am here for you aswell , i know how it feels to feel alone . But your not ! You have your babies and you need to be strong for them , it'll all get better in time <3 keep your head up .

[lindseyskyler]

holy moly! Three boys?? Lol. I'm worried about having two and two girls.  

[Septembermommy09]

Im am here for you I am 23 pregnant with my third son. I know how you feel sweetie. It will be okay