confused..

[Jojolee94]

ok to start off with I'm 22 Weeks pregnant. Can someone tell me if this is normal, my fiance who is in the military has no patience at all. We go and visit my family alot because they are close and it seems like he wants to spend time with my little brother who is six, but he gets really frustrated because my little brother is so hyper and he makes mistakes like all little kids for instance getting a fishing pole tangled up...and my fiance yells and storms around... I question him and say how are you going to handle when our baby is born he will need constant attention...and he says it'll be different its our kid.... Is that true?

[cristina3065]

I agree no matter the age patience is patience. It's just a different kind of patience. Believe it or not a 6yr old is wayyy easier than a newborn or a toddler. At least a 6yr old understands commands and can talk back. With a newborn or a toddler you have to "guess" why they are crying or cranky. It takes ALOT of patience to deal with a cranky newborn or a young toddler. My son was colicky for many months and there were some days I just wanted to pull my hair out! He wouldn't stop crying! Then he was diagnosed with autism at 2 and that was another challenge because I had to be extra patient and not to mention the "terrible 2's". 6yr olds are a BREEZE compared to this! Definitely talk to him some more and try to get him to understand this. If not, he's in for quite a ride trying to deal with a baby :)

[Jojolee94]

Thanks alot, I will give it a try, another reason he gives is that with a six year old your being thrown into it... But with a new born you work your way up... I personally believe that patience is patience no matter what the age

[cristina3065]

I don't know about that. Patience is patience, and acceptance is acceptance. What if your child (God forbid) has ADD or ADHD or even autism? Will he still be accepting? You should talk to him a little more about this and bring up these sort of scenarios. Not saying that this will happen but no child is perfect and if you have a child that needs a little extra attention or patience will it already be in him to give the child that? He needs to start acquiring some of these skills now because having a child is stressful and some days are not easy, you have to have love, patience, and acceptance. Good luck hun!