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[Baby_momma15]

I'm 16 and 12 weeks +7days. I'm a ftm. My baby daddy and I broke up 2 weeks ago and every said it would hit me and I would be sad. Honestly I am not sad,mad, or even upset. He was doing things that he changed. He's an alcoholic and e had stopped drinking. Well he posted a picture and it said "why does it feel so good to be bad?" Am I wrong for breaking up with him or am I doing the right thing? I feel it's what's best for the baby because I don't want my child growing up thinking his/her daddy loves drinking more than him/her. I love him but that doesn't change how I feel about this. Can someone just tell me I'm doing the right thing please.

[Baby_momma15]

Thanks all of y'all. @chantanmore your story did help and all the other ladies y'all had really given me a boost of confidence. I feel good knowing I'm doing what's right for my baby. My granny makes comments every now an then about how I should get back with him and how everything would be easier with him here. I just brush her off because she's just talking. Everytime something is wrong with me she runs an tells him. I don't like that. How do I solve that? I asked him to come and talk to me if he has any questions about me or the baby. I just wish my granny would respect my wishes. I love my child and would do anything to keep it out of harms way.

[ninjakelly]

Hey you did the right thing by thinking of you and your baby koodos for that and sounds like you have a family that will be a good support system . keep your head up and make sure you file for full custody when the baby comes that way he will be forced to pay you support by the courts. Good luck your a smart young woman and I believe you can do anything .

[2peasnapod24]

Your grandma is more then likely much like most elderly people and are old fashioned. Thinking mother and father need to "Make it work" for the child's sake regardless of the circumstances. Try not to let others opinions get to you, ultimately its your life and your decision.

[2peasnapod24]

I wish I had your strength! My baby daddy and I have been together going on 5 years together. He was a drunk before I met him and he still despite the fact that we have a 3 year old son and another son due in April. Ill admit I too am an alcoholic but I quit last year for the sake of my child (at the time one) and for myself. I guess being that too was a drunk made it OK? I've opened my eyes now and don't plan on drinking possibly forever. He has yet to quit... It angers me disgust me yet I put up with it...him being my baby's daddy makes me feel somewhat obligated to stay..that and I truely do have strong emotions for him..whether it be love or not they are Strong and I dread the thought of not being with him...so basically what I'm trying to say is...YES you are doing the right thing! You are a strong independent woman and the sound of it will be a wonderful mother.hopefully someday he'll get his act together. It seems that now he's more interested in partying then being a dad. Kudos to you for seeing that. Good luck with your little one! There a lot of fun and joy

[chantanmore]

I hope my storey helps u I was 17 when I was pregnant with my little girl her  dad was all ways drinking and doing drugs and not treating me the nicest I turned 18 had my baby girl and when she was born he was not there for me at all I hope that onces baby got there he would but not he did not change I left him the day I fond drugs in our bed room floor (places were babby could get them ) I walked out and it was the best thing I did for my little girl she was under one .. she is now 7 and no he does not come see her and what not but iam married she has a brother one o  the way to and she is just happy t she's not a staple life with out that crap he was doing so keep your head up you got your life befor u :)

[Baby_momma15]

Thank y'all. I just wish my grandma would see it the way I see it. She's stressing me out now. Last night we got into a big argument because she was trying to tell me it was all my fault. I feel so helpless. I feel like he caused me so much stress since we broke up. He started talking to my family about our problems and I don't like that. Just because I'm young doesn't mean I need my parents for every little thing that happens. My grandma is told me I was being immature about all off this. I am very independent and I know I'm doing the grown up thing here not for me for my baby.

[erinkelly97]

Don't feel bad, youre doing what's best for your baby. My ex was abusive but also drinking and doing drugs. You cant stay in a relationship just because he's the father of your child. It could do more harm than good. Again, don't feel bad. It's a good move on you for breaking things off. You don't want that kind of stress/toxicity in yours or your babys life. Keep positive!

[tonyaaGonz]

you did the right thing! I'm 18 weeks pregnant and i recently broke up with my boyfriend to over the same things as you said. he's an alcoholic but he also is doing other drugs..  i broke up with him for the same reason because i don't want my baby growing up seeing that kind of stuff. I'm a little sad about how things are but as long as he gets his act together and get professional help then yeah . stay strong girl!

[SuperMom1315]

You did the right thing. He isn't grown up yet and the day he see his baby for the first time he's going to regret not being there.