when baby is born

[beki21]

i dont kno if this is just me being silly but im kinda worried that when i have my baby i wnt get time with just me, hubby and bubba. we have so much family that are super excited and i understand that but im afraid they wont leave us alone. especially my mil! iv gotta feeling shes gonna try and come to the  hospital str8 away. but i will put my foot down.

[baby2_on_the_way]

me and hubby will be the only ones in the room when baby is born cause we are having a csection, but I am very worried that while I am in recovery everyone will be meeting my baby and steeling my bonding time lol, I will request that my son is kept from everyone except me and hubby until I am in my room, and even then I want hubby to go get our daughter from the waiting room so she can meet her baby brother first, then our parents and siblings and friends are welcome to come visit. it sounds selfish but I am the one who is dying every minute of every day to meet this hansom little life inside me, and they are excited too, but not as excited as me and I want first dibs. im also feeling sad cause when im on the table and they do my csection they will hand baby to my hubby first not me and that makes me very sad that I wont be first to hold him, but if it cant be me I want it to be hubby, and he already knows how badly I want to kiss my hansom little man and say happy birthday so even tho he is the one holding him I want the chance to get in some loving too :):):):)

[beki21]

if no1 listens to me then il get the midwifes to tell em or i might turn in2 a cow and tell them to do one! im sure it will go ok its just as the day gets closer im stressing out more. i feel like iv waited 4ever 4 this baby :)

[shelleversole]

Sounds like you ladies just need to put those big swollen mamabear feet down, and make people respect your boundaries and privacy. People tend to lose their sh*t when a baby is involved. But, baby or no baby, it is still YOUR body, and the HIPA laws do still very nuch apply. If you tell your doctors and nurses you don't want to be bothered, then you have absolutely every right not to be. I was also firm with everyone when I was given my induction and csec date. I was very clear that no one was to be there, until I let them be. I will be in the d*mn hospital at least two-three days. I want hubby there for delivery and recovery. And I want my first BFing to be just me baby and hubby. People are surprisingly understanding. And the ones who aren't I promise the Labor&Delivery nurses know how to take good care of them. They have tons of experience. I had one scare off my MIL when I was in hospital for high blood pressure because she kept stressing me out over the phone. I know its hard being the "bad" person. But no one will blame you, its YOUR baby, and YOUR body. You have every right to choose who comes and goes and when.

[BlasianCee1]

Lol maybaby19 they get mad when say you're going to breastfeed...my bf mom tried to tell me that it wasn't as healthy as giving the baby formula just so.she can have the baby more...ha that's a joke I think NOT!

[meNmy3Cs]

You can tell L&D that you don't want any visitors and nobody will b aloud to come to your room and u can also request no phone calls too.. And also tell them you don't want anyone to know so when people try n call they will tell them that is not a patient here

[beki21]

im just not gunna ring any1 and tell them im in labor. i only want hubby and my mum there. every1 else can come when im ready coz im gunna want to shower and try and bf without a room full of ppl. gah!! familes hey lol

[maybaby19]

My mom and I were in a baby store and the lady asked me if I was planning to bf and when I told her yes my mom LAUGHED and said uhhh yea right...EXCUSE ME? This is my child and if u want to bad mouth my decision that is going to benefit him, then I will exclusivly bf and not even pump so you can't feed him at all...b****... and I was considering not vaccinating and she basically told me that I was going to let my son die if I did that.

[jessicaann21]

My mother won't stop saying that she will come over everyday after work and that she will be there during the labor (not delivery) and after. She already thinks its hers. When people ask me about my pregnancy she talks over me to answer and just won't stop. I love her but its so frustrating.

[Ms_Steph_]

I thought the same thing. But when I was finally in active labor I told my hubby I want no one in the room unless I ask for them. Same in recovery room. The nurses where on my side too and kicked out anyone when they thought I was overwhelmed and wanted my little family time. Just make sure the nurses know what you want n let them be the bad guys. :-)

[Des92]

My mil has always wanted a girl, but instead only had 3 boys.  She is also a baby fanatic and this is her first grand baby!  She has already said this to me.. "Markus isn't going to change the baby's diaper so he will always bring her to me"  (Markus is my husbands name.)  Uhmmm NO she is my baby, if daddy doesn't wanna change her it will be me.. NOT YOU!  UGH!

[Krysi25]

U guys have it so easy!! My mil wasn't in the room when I had him but shortly there after and it's been three almost four weeks and I'm back at work and she tries to run the show no hunny he's my lil man I gotta put my foot down ASAP!!!

[zyrius9]

This post made me happy! Iam not alone haha I live with my mother in law too and she says I have a super flexable schedule I can get as many days off when the babies born... FML!!!!!

[zyrius9]

Omg ive been so angry just thinking about my delivery I feel like iam probably going to be super tired and look like crap n just want my husband and baby not my whole freaking family coming into the room right after..I want privacy :( my families so excited I kno when I bring baby home ill never have a second alone with my little girl plus all the advice there gonna give has me thinking iam just gonna be annoyed for months!!

[Des92]

Oh my MIL will be in the room too.  All I know is she better not even glance at my vag.. or try holding my baby before me!

[amandacovaleski]

You ladies think thats bad.. I lost the battle and my mother in law is going to be in the delivery room, along with my mother. Im just praying they go home after hes born!

[beki21]

im glad im not the only one. i just dont wanna share my baby! i dont even care if that sounds selfish.

[Des92]

I am the same way!  I live with my MIL and she already thinks she's gonna have my baby all the time.. and that is not happening!  I know I might sound selfish and/or silly but I am going to be sad when my baby comes out, because right now she's all mine, I feel her kicks, I give her her nutrients.. no one else can do it just me.  But when she is born I'ma have to share her with daddy and his whole family.