Question for all you ladies.

[Cheyenne__19]

I overheard my boyfriend talking to his buddy about the new iPhone I got him, he was asking if there's any way I can hack his phone through mine & see his text messages ... Is it just me or is that curious?
Does it sound like he has something to hide & is worried I'll find out?

[Cheyenne__19]

I asked my company & they said they don't do that , but they can give me a list of the month & numbers he has been in contact with ... but he just started using the phone almost 2 weeks ago .. I need the texts not phone calls !
Gaaah!

[ajaponte]

I think you can look online at the numbers that the has been texting.

[yowuddupkeey]

I would just flat out ask him. Ask him when he's least expecting it because then you will get his honest reaction.

[Cheyenne__19]

Ya I get what your saying, he doesn't have a code on his phone that I know of , but them again I just got the phone for him last week so who knows .. I will know tomorrow & I do have a pass code on my phone, but only because my son likes to play with my phone & my boyfriend knows my password to my phone so it's okay.
& yes it's just when I heard him say that to his buddy, it was @ like 4am on the computer, he was on an open stream for all to see ..  If you know what I mean?
So he doesn't know that I would have been checking in on him @ 4am cause I couldn't sleep...  
So I dunno how I would say "babe I over heard you talking to your buddy on stream all worried if I could read your text messages"
He's gonna be like "wtf why you creeping up on me?"
Hah .. I dunno fml.

[karkay3]

I think you should try to look into it.. THEN confront him. Maybe he thinks it is his son and he wants to be involved but still wants you and doesn't want to hurt you. Or honestly, it could be nothing. But it could be anything! The thing that concerned me when reading this is why would he ask his friend that? He obviously had a reason to ask his friend that... that seems so sketchy! I had a boyfriend that did that in the past... I gave him everything he wanted and he always would reassure me that I was his one and only but I wasn't, of course. I didn't look into it for the longest time and I regret it more than anything cause he had been doing it for a long time. I think it would have saved me a little bit of heart ache if I hadn't waited so long. TRUST YOUR GUT.
If you guys love and trust each other, don't do pass codes on the phones and have the phones completely open to each other. I personally think that the phones should be open. It FEELS better to know that you or him have nothing to hide. There will be so much more love for each other and you will learn to trust again. Being able yo truly trust is a great feeling. Good luck with everything but don't let yourself get pushed around. It isn't "snooping" ha you heard him say something that gives you every right to be concerned and no, phones shouldn't be "personal space" in my opinion. you love each other and want trust, especially since you've lost trust in the past, be open about everything. Including phones.

[Cheyenne__19]

Gaaah.
I asked him if he's heard from her @ all & he told me no
I talked to his mother on the phone a couple nights ago & she told me a story that happened , that they ran into each other or something & she was screaming @ him on the street that he was the father of her son..
He never told me any of this , I don't know if it's because he doesn't want me to stress out like his mother said ... But it all just seems a little fishy to me ...

[KeziaBrightsea]

I know this is a scary idea, but it has it's merits... try asking him what is going on. Tell him that you heard his question and give him reasons why you are feeling that way. Pregnancy hormones get the best of us and can cause us to think crazy thoughts. Whenever I doubt my fiance, and I really shouldn't since I trust him and love him and have never had cause to not trust him, he understands that my hormones are making me doubt myself and shows me his phone no problem. I have never been jealous until I became pregnant. Now I feel like a blimp and fear he wants a thinner girl. Just saying that to him removes all doubts because he assures me he loves me and our unborn son and will do anything to prove it. I hate asking but, once again, my hormones are whack. If he truly has nothing to hide, telling him upfront how you feel will be great. He knows you aren't snooping and you know he's faithful. If he gets sketchy and angry, then I am not sure. Good luck in that case. But trust does go both ways and snooping is a crappy way to treat your significant other.

[2xmommie]

Try doing a search for her number, anything concerning that number should pop up....
Yea, he's feeling my wrath at the moment.... Talk about being put in the dog house, he has been put out the....

[Cheyenne__19]

Ya I'm definitely going to look Into it then , is there a way I can find out if he's texting her specific number?
& I'm sorry to hear that him, guys can be complete pigs .. that's why it's so hard for me to trust them :(

[2xmommie]

If you feel that way, you should definitely look into the situation.... Always trust your gut.... I just had a similar situation go on with my bf, for the past year(yes, i waited that long to engage in snooping) I've been having an issue with my bf phone.... He was always so protective over it, but never had a lock on it, i just felt that he had something to hide.... Me being the kind of person that doesn't like to snoop, never picked up his phone to go looking for anything.... Although, my gut was telling me something was kind of fishy with him and that phone.... Numerous times I'd confronted him about my accusations, but he always assured me that he wasn't hiding anything.... So, about 2 weeks ago, I decided to ask him for his phone.... He just handed over the phone like everything was A o.k. because he knows that I never go through his phone( I've just never been into that, although he was always snooping through mines).... I got the phone and to my surprise, there were numerous texts from another girl smh.... I was pi$$ed, at myself for not looking sooner....

[Cheyenne__19]

Yes that is true & this ex is crazy .. But the thing is , is she's saying that her son is my boyfriends son & sending him pictures and crap ..  
So annoying, he's got an open profile on Facebook & posted his new number the other day, so obviously he doesn't care who knows his number ?
... But yes I can block it , although she will probably just Facebook message him ..  
I checked his Facebook when he left it on my computer & she hasn't contacted him through Facebook for about 2 months now.
But I know she hasn't given up.
SO annoying & stressful on me :(

[alexx1216]

Not if you do it online, he won't even know lol

[ajaponte]

Does it matter? I did it before my husband and I got married. A girl he fooled around with kept texting and calling him trying to be friends and he knew I was not okay with it but he wouldn't do anything about it so I blocked her number online for over a year until she finally gave up. After only a few months of her being blocked he admitted that he only talked to her because he felt bad. Dumb reason. And that he was glad she didn't text him anymore. Lol.

[Cheyenne__19]

But do you think I would look like an insecure girlfriend then?

[Cheyenne__19]

Really?!
Yes I do know her number :) lol

[ajaponte]

Depending on your service provider you can go online and block any number without having to even look at his phone. I know it's that simple with verizon. So if you know her number and you think something weird is going on you could always stop them from texting that way.

[boothang8695]

I get an email to but if I needed I could request a detailed one. And I would snoop myself but only do what you think is right. If you find something bring it up but be an adult about it but no matter what don't tear yourself up about it

[newmommyy30]

"Snooping destroys relationships" whoever said that is wrong in a healthy relationship case. If someone is cheating or sneaking and u snoop...they will freak out.and you might separate. ..if  they have nothing to hide they will say okay snoop but you're a crazy weirdo....lolno biggy. ..people gotta EARN trust. Don't just hand it out. Im a snooper... love my husband but i only fully trust God. Snoop for your own safety and happiness..... if there is nothing then yay if so, best him up(: i love snoopers. My hubby does to it makes me feel loved. ..like he cares.

[Cheyenne__19]

But the thing is ..  
This was @ 4am & he was on a stream online & that's how I heard it.
He didn't know I was watching lol... He's gonna be like "wtf?" ..
& he is under my contract also, but I get an email sent to me of my bill, not by mail... So I guess it won't work for me.

[RussianTay]

It has nothing to do with snoopin, everyone like there privacy,but if hes aasking them type of questions she shoul . Be concern,you should talk with him and tell him you heard his conversation and ask him about it

[boothang8695]

I bought my fiances phone and its under my billing contract. I am able to get a detailed list of every number that has called, been called, texted or has been texted. We have had a lot of problems in the past but I haven't had the need to do this. We both pick up each others phones and do what ever with them. We are a couple. Yes we need our own spaces. But as a couple and specially if we are in for the long run need to have nothing to hide. I have ALL his passwords as he has mine.

[alexx1216]

Yeah what they're saying is right about the hole privacy thing, but the point here is what your bf said, why would he say ask his friend something like that if he wasn't hiding something? So you either need to ask him, or look yourself. I couldn't let something like that go. & I'm not just gunna leave him because I heard something like that because out of nowhere I didn't trust him, obviously the situation needs to be established. Goodluck hun.

[Cheyenne__19]

Ya your right , I'm just letting it go.
I have just went through a lot with my sons father & now it's so hard for me to trust anyone ..
It's understandable that he wants his privacy just like I like mine
Maybe I just over reacted.

[LadyBeeley]

If theres no trust theres nothing between you two. Whether or not theres cheating going on. The relationship has been sunk if you lose trust or become suspicious, plain and simple. If you cant be up front with him about your feelings and rather be just as deceitful by snooping, why are you with him? Thats what I would consider. Me and my bf are the same as previous poster. My phone my space. If he gets suspicious his butt will bring it up on the spot and we will sort it out like adults. But we have never once had that problem bc we know the exact premise of our relationship.