Baby Shower/MIL question help!!!

[mommytoobe1]

So this is my first pregnancy and my fiances first also and its both our parents first grandchild and Tuesday wr foundout its a girl which we all wanted now what I'm annoyed about is the whole baby shower thing lik e ever since I was a little girl my dreams in life were to growup getout on my own and get married and have a family of my own which includes planning everything since I'm a big planner and like to have everything perfect and my way well now ladt night our familys came to a cookout to reveal the gender of my baby and when I was sitting there my fiances family were talking about planning the baby showrer already and what we are going to do and blah blah blah like I know they are doing it to be nice because there just excited but that's something me and my mom want to do by our selves and me being the nice person I am and can't open my mouth idk what to do I was hoping you ladys could help my fiance understands and agrees with me but won't say anything about it to his mom not that I don't like her or his family his mom can help but I want it my way am I being selfish idk sorry for this being so long had to vent going crazy!!!!!

[libbyz]

Why can't u tell ur mil that it mom has already started planning u a shower and she can help also. That way u can still do what u want

[natNat0959]

This is the time for you to relax and have people take care of you. I'd let whomever throw you a baby shower and let them suprise you with their party planning skills. After all its all about your baby. With my first I was always asked for imput with my baby showers and I just told them to do what they needed to do cause I was more concerned about making sure I was ready for baby to arrive. We are having a party after #2 is born and the last thing I'm going to want to do is plan a party. My mom is in charge and whatever happens happens. Just my opinion is to let it go and enjoy everyone who is wanting to celebrate your baby. And if you get 2 showers, cool. :) good luck.

[shortyBe]

I honestly think that its your baby and ultimately your babyshower. You should have plan it whoever you want to plan the shower its for you and your baby. If you want her to help then that's fine but if you dont and just want to keep it between your mother and you, you should there is nothing wrong with that its YOUR first baby and some people will just have to understand that because when this baby is born your going to depend on your mother for the most advice not your mil so naturally your going to want your mom to be involved and that's its explain that to her

[4thonecoming]

Have two, one for his family the other for your family and friends, that's what I did

[Sarah765]

Why dont you nicely let your mil know your mom had wanted to plan it, and invite her to do it with you guys?

[Tay9662]

girl let her throw you one too, it's just more presents for you..

[BabyTurnip]

Pick a date for the shower quick (doing it around 28-32weeks pregnant seemd to be a prefered time) do the invites as soon as possible and send them out. Its a nice way of letting people know that its already being planned. If ur MIL wants too throw one herself then let her go. I dont believe its a thing of being fair, if this is something you want to do with ur mom then so be it. Most of the time one person organizes it (a friend, family member or yourself). Do what you want! Its ur baby :)

[jannice40]

I had two baby showers....one planned by my mom(with a lot of my  input) and anothet one planned by my husbands family. :)

[2ndbaby77]

It's not fair if you don't include the mil. It's just as much her grand baby as your mom's.

[2ndbaby77]

Your not supposed to plan your own shower. It's the mother and mother in law thing to do.