hmmm....should i be upset

[hlimber]

Hi ladies....just a quick question...I am 21 weeks pregnant and my boyfriend just told me that he is getting child support/spousal support taken out of his paycheck....of $200.00 each month.  He has not seen his son since he was 4. He is now 11 and I asked him how long him and his ex were married for and he tells me he lied to me and they were never married...we got into numurous arguments over him having a baby with me and us getting married &  he still didn't tell me....he told me tonight....I am upset because he lied & now scared we are gonna struggle even more....he does not make good money....I make more then him and pay for a lot....should I be upset over this?

[hlimber]

Thank you ladies....not upset so much about the child support....I understand and support that he has/should pay just saddens me that she does not allow him to speak/see him....tough as well they are in Ohio & we are in California....we are getting married this summer before our one & only lil girl is born....he has a boy & I have two boys....I am just upset that he lied about the ex and scared to struggle even more now. As fat as taxes thank you for the tip I am gonna have to do that :)

[T_soon_2B_mom_of_5]

Oh and one more thing, IDK bout where you're at but most states you don't pay alimony of spousal support unless you were actually married and most states it's for a specified amount of time usually a few years and yes you have every right and reason to be upset and pissed off when your man lies to you

[T_soon_2B_mom_of_5]

Oh and one more thing, IDK bout where you're at but most states you don't pay alimony of spousal support unless you were actually married and most states it's for a specified amount of time usually a few years and yes you have every right and reason to be upset and pissed off when your man lies to you

[T_soon_2B_mom_of_5]

Having been married to someone who had to pay child support for a child he said not allowed to see bc of his ex, I get your frustration and concern. Once your baby is born he just has to show the child support office garnishing his wages that he is now responsible for and supporting another child and while it will not ever go away it will get adjusted and should decrease at least a little. If you guys are married and the taxes together and he is ever behind on payments all you have to do so his ex doesn't get your taxes you worked for its file what is called an injured spouse form with the irs. It just states it is not your obligation to pay his child support and you will get your portion of taxes. Which will be nice especially if you make more then him.

[rachb11]

i would be upset that he never told you in the first place, but being upset over the situation...he can't really help that he has to pay child support. it IS his child that he still has to care for....he wont stop paying child support until the kid is out of school. so if he's 18 and decides to go to college, he'll still have to pay it. at least thats how it is in Indiana.

[babyinJuly]

You have every right to be mad, if he lied about that what else could he be hiding? To trust someone is hard but it's harder to get that trust back for that person, also hard to respect someone like that. Try not to stress for your babies sake. Easier said then done I'm sure!