i feel like crying

[Malliebaybee]

so i was talking to my boyfriend of 9 months. He told me that if im preg. i have to get an abortion or he will push me down the stairs. He was like i love you and i want to be with you but no kids. im so lost i dont know what to do. i dont believe in abortion but i love this man more than anything he was my very first kiss and love. im so lost.

[smjmekg]

Please consider your options, you're only 19, you have plenty of time to find someone else. I'm not going to tell you not to stay with this person, but I am going to tell you that I've heard "I'll change" before, more than once from more than one person...and you know what? THEY DON'T CHANGE! You already said he's laid hands on you, really think. I know you said you did, but I'd hate for your name to be in the obituary too early, and at the hand of someone else. I'm not saying your man would ever go that far, but pushing you down stairs? I mean yeah it may make you miscarry, but it could snap your neck too...did he think of that? I may not know your situation entirely but I've been in your shoes before, in more than one way...believe me when I say you CAN do better, and I think you should move on pregnant or not. You said it yourself, it made you think about the kind of people your friends are, but they're the same as your BF. For your safety, think about it a little harder, you may have low self esteem, and you may think you're weak, but I'm willing to bet you're stronger than you give yourself credit for. Feel free to PM me and I'll elaborate on my situations if you'd like, or if you need to talk. I do know how you feel, like I said I've been there before.

[hkenny]

do you want hi to father your children? regardless if you are pregnant or not you need to leave him! he's horrible. Push you down the stairs? That is a horrible thing to say. You deserve better!! dont settle just b/c he was your 1st love, Trust me you can and will find someone better who will love you and want to have babies with you.

[waitn838]

take a test...the first step is finding out if you actually are preg...as for your bf...it makes me sick to even read of this...you may love him but remember love is never 1-sided...does he love you back...ummm...saying the things he has been is not love...its a tough lesson in life but its the truth

once you have a true understanding of what love is you will find that perfect guy...

im sorry if im coming off harsh but this isnt right....there is no humor in this...if you are preg that baby did not ask for this situation, however it is up to YOU as its mother to DO THE RIGHT THING and if the father of the baby talks to you like that then get a restraining order and remove him from your life

[ammanda]

how late are u?  

[Malliebaybee]

my periods late. my bf came in me. ive been getting headaches alot and feeling sick.

[ammanda]

Yea im completly amazed that you are defending this people.  There is no excuse for there behavoir or there words.  I know you never said they were funny.. i was just saying as if they could hear me.. i tend to do that alot. lol.  but really i can understand you lvoe these people, but you got to realize that they are not people that you should allow any where near your baby... what exactly makes you think your pregnant. i really cant wait to find ou if you are