immature daddy!!

[Yanesmy89]

How can I get my immature fiancé to stop spending unnecessary money && get him to understand that we need to save for maternity leave?? We're both working parents but we're young (22) and aren't budgeting experts. However, I DO know that buying $120 movie pack isn't necessary. Am I the only one with this problem?? Btw I'm 17 weeks pregnant.

[cloeluv]

Omg i'm 11+5 and i'm having the same issue just saving period we have a business and he has another child...so stop shopping and partying...I mean we are in the entertainment industry so I understand networking but some of these events are bout.necessary we are also young 28 yrs old and he is the only one working right now

[Spiket77]

If you need help budgeting, there is a good site called mint.com
We use it and it has helped us a lot. Not only with budgeting but discussing finances. We have budgets for everything from eating out to his fishing hobby. It takes a lot of pressure off to know how much you can spend on certain things.
You can also make a list of all the bay needs now and over the next year and plug that number into your budget so you know what you need to be saving/spending. Good luck!

[CeeAirUh]

Not at all im 20 with my first child & I've bought him EVERYTHING he needs while his dad who's 25 plans on buying a "foreign" car! Everytime I think about it I get pissed, but then again that's wat child support is for ;) goodluck

[Yanesmy89]

That's just the thing. We do like to eat out every now and then & go to the movies, but we haven't saved much at,all. Really worries me too bec we have a new car note to worry about. Thanks for the support ladies. Its comforting to see it from different points of view.

[lera1130]

It's not all men. In a relationship I always think one person is always better with finances than the other. If its you then you should handle all the money and decide what's "left over money" after bills & savings. In my case my husband is a lot better than I am and I like knowing how much I can spend and not feel guilty that I went over board. Good luck!

[roswangelina1125]

I just think men dont understand how its hard for us to raise a child cause they dont have to do all the work were the one that gives birth to child and have no sleep,guied them raise them teach them and what does the guy do some dont even help raise the child other well if they put effort into it and some of them dont do anything they all need a wake up call

[chelseasarnes]

That's okay, I understand comepletely! I asked my boyfriend to pick up toothepaste and 2 bags of doritos for taco salad and he wouldn't do it because he had other things to pay. But when I got home I noticed he had a bag of weed and a nice bag of mcdonalds. Men don't understand the importance at all!! We have nothing for our son and I'm 6 months pregnant and its starting to worry me. Maybe its just because all mothers like to be prepared? Its not only you though!!

[mommyd2012]

With men it's kinda a out of sight out of mind kinda thing! That's why most men don't get excited or understand what needs to be done for the baby until they actually lay eyes on them or hold them! It also depends on the up bringing they had too! It's good to be budget conscious but don't go over board on it! I agree the movie pack is a bit much but don't cut all splurges out! You could have a SO like mine that doesn't want to spend anything in order to stay stable for the baby! But that is also because he had mothing growing up but essentials! (clothes food shoes and roof over his head...no toys no birthday parties ect) Then he sits around the house wishing he could go see a movie or buy a book once a week! I wanna smack him sometimes cus it drives me nuts! He is the only one working and he brings home enough to support us but still worries we won't have enough for the baby! I have to remind him that he works soooo hard to provide for us that a movie ticket or $10 book a week is not going to kill the bank!

Best way to deal with it is make a list of how much the baby is going to run you each month....make sure you do an emergency fund in there too....just incase something happens and you need something for the baby (like medicine or extra formula that you may not expect) then show him the report! If you write up your current spending and then add the baby on top of it...it will show him what he can spend and what he can't! It's never to early to plan and talk it out! But that's the thing you have to talk it out! He may just think its ok to keep doing what he is doing because you haven't said anything directly to him!

Best of luck dear!

[Yanesmy89]

Thats gotta be tough. I wish you the best && its good to know I'm not being impractical & selfish!

[AAOrozco]

Mine baby daddy husband now used to be the same way but he would spend all the extra money on beer. I told him if he didn't stop buying beer all the time and save money for the baby and our 16 month older daughter I was going to just leave him and do everything on my own with a little help and support from my family. Definitely straightened him up. Still are struggling but things are slowly improving l.

[mommyofaria]

Nope my bd is getting laid off at the end of next month...instead of him buying things for our daughter...who is due in October...he's only worried about his car .....Smh men just don't understand anything...