in laws

[gwenivory]

so I had my bubba two days ago and every time my husbands parents decide to come they bring their entire family- literally. his three little sisters, grandparents, mom, dad, older brother. and I don't get any rest but I feel awful to say no because they want to see her.
they don't even call to ask me if they can come which is what bothers me most. I just want rest today.

[RockRose]

Since you had your baby two days ago it seems like everyone in the family wanted to stop by and welcome the baby.

It seems very unlikely they'll all come over often unannounced unless they do this kind of thing all the time. I really can't imagine all those people with an interest in coming by together frequently.

[brittneyelz]

My in laws were the same way i hated how every single person in the family had to come the same night my baby boy was born. I had like 10 different familys come visit me in one night and they would get offended if i wanted to be alone to breast feed. I achually just started crying because i was so stressed. I just wanted to be alone with my husband and my baby boy. But just talk to your husband or the babys dad and tell him how you feel im more than sure he will back you up.

[gwenivory]

thank you mommas! that's awesome advice and really helpful.

[mommyof4babiesnoq]

Have your husband say something. That's what I do. I find it causes less hard feelings

[luxah]

Sounds like a good opportunity to get rest while they are there. Explain to his mom that you would like to take a nap and where the items are for your baby should she need a diaper change. If your breast feeding feed her before you nap and hand her off. Ask if they don't mind tidying up your hpuse while they're there as well. If you get weird looks or snide comments tell them that they can't come over today because you need sleep and a clean house and don't have time for them and shut the door in their faces. They can't just barge into your house.