in need of advice

[Cls413]

I am 19 and pregnant with my first child me and my boyfriend have made the choice not to have this child ( please no one judge ) I am having second thoughts I am wondering if I am making the right choice my next doctors appointment I am supposed to schedule a ultras sound to make sure how far along I am and was on the.contraceptive depo prevera ! Never faltered on it I have never had the desire to have children but I am doubting weather or not to do this part of ne wonders some how through birth control im pregnant didn't that mean this baby should be born? ? Somebody anybody advice?

[Sleepybear23]

You should definitely seek a crisis pregnancy center like Matrix or Lifecare Services. I used volunteer at one in college and they are such wonderful people! They truly help young mothers who are abortion minded. They provide a free ultrasound and all the tools and resources you need to carry out you pregnancy. They follow many their clients even through the first five years of the child's life. Many relationships end after an abortion so don't let that be the deciding factor in a life altering matter. Hope this helps

[mommyTobe_12]

I think your sign is the fact your having some sort of doubt about going thru with it. No matter what you choose, your boyfriend should be by your side supporting you.
In the end, anything we all tell you is our personal opinions.. you need to do whats best for YOU. You can listen to what we say, your family or bf says, but ultimately its YOUR body, YOUR decision. Your the one whos gona live with whatever you choose.
Just know there are other options, besides terminating..as others have mentioned. Good luck with whatever you choose, I sincerely hope everything works out. xx

[hnicole6]

I am twenty and I was in your position when I first found out in January that me and my boyfriend were going to have a baby...I thought about it for a couple weekday and just decided I could not get rid of my baby.it is a very hard decision but one you have to live with the rest of your life whether u keep the baby or abort...think very very hard...good luck and let me know if you need anyone to talk to!

[Catort]

If you are having doubts, then you shouldn't go through with it.  You shouldn't lose your john because of pregnancy and you can still complete college.  It might take a little longer and some creativity to get it done but you can do it.  If your boyfriend won't forgive you our try to understand how you are feeling than he's not the right one for you.  Love is unconditional, all forgiving.  You wil have rough times ahead but it wil all be worth it.  I just think that you are having doubts for a reason and this baby beat alot of odds to be conceived.  Give it alot of thought and soul searching before you decide because once it's done there is no turning back

[Cls413]

My boyfriend has a child already and is considerable older than me If I have this baby its mine I guess its all just gonna be how strong I am and I hope that maybe the ultrasound will give me clarity ......

[sehale]

You could consider open adoption. That way you someone who wants a baby will get one and you can still see your baby. That way you still have college, family, boyfriend, and you can still see your baby. Research online about all of your options before you make your decision.