in need of some SERIOUS ADVICE. please!

[littleonee_x]

So I am 21 years old and have been with the father of my kids for about a lil more then 3 years until last fall. I have been through a lot with him personally and now Im fed up with having to deal with him period. He has not been a father figure to my first born and I doubt he will be a father figure to my second. Due to the fact that he rather party, get drunk and do drugs. Oh an did i tell you, he is in a relationship with a girl that has 2 kids but he doesnt help me with his own. Never shows up at one doctors appointment not even when my son was in the er 3x. Left his first birthday party early. Therefore, He is not here for my babies physically, mentally, or finacially. Unless im asking. Smh. On the other hand I never stopped him from seeing our son when he does show up. But my babies deserve better. Instead of someone popping in and out as he pleases. My son is about to be 2 years old and my other on the way.

So here is where Im stuck. Child support or full custody?

[knw1094]

Full custody and child support. You didn't make those babies alone and you damn sure shouldn't have to support them alone. That money can help you get things you need for your babies and that's important. Whether he likes it or not he has a legal obligation to your children.

[littleonee_x]

Thanks ladies. I really appreciate all of ur advice. I really do want full custody instead of child support.

[loveYou4Ever11]

Full custody definitely, i know you want him to be apart of your sons life..but it seems me he has no part. To hell with him

[DWmama]

^^^^ All single mamas should be like that girl!!! I respect a woman who doesn't automatically go for child support just because he is the dad!

[delilahhhxo_]

Go with full custody. Me personally wouldn't ask a "man" to participate in a dads activity even if its money to provide for my kid. If he cant do it on his own why force feed it. Thats me as a single mother with my first I let his dad do him, didnt ask for **** just played my role. He has NO custody & has to pay NO child support. Yea, it might of been an easy way out for him but I would never go to his bunk level and ask for a penny. Thank God the guy im with now is nothing like that but at the end of the day you can only play your part as mommy n daddy...if hes going to get it your way of taking care of your children cut his butt loose.

[DWmama]

Well you can't make him do that and neither will a court. But you can protect your kids by taking him to court. And until a court makes a judgment you can choose to not let him around the children if you are worried. But definitely sounds like you need custody of your children more than you are worried about child support but go for both