irritated

[Cyn_henderson]

Last night my husbands phone went off at 1 am. We were still awake but he doesn't answer his phone after 9 unless it's work. So i asked him who it was he tells me. An it was his ex gf asking about me an how things are going throughout my pregnancy. Normally I wouldn't mind if it was a different ex. But this one to me seems like she still has feelings. An he tells me not to be mad. An naturally what do I do. I get highly irritated. One cause he answered back, two I've told each an everyone of his exs I'll respect you if you respect me an keep my name an my babies name out of your mouths cause I don't feel like it's appropriate for an ex to be giving advice on your relationship. An three cause it was 1 am. He won't even answer back to his mom after 10. But I brushed it off this morning. Came downstairs an I was fine. But then he goes off asking why I didn't stay upstairs accusing me of accusing him of not trusting him. I laughed an said what are you going to do cheat on me in your sleep? Told him i came downstairs cause i was hungry an he calls me a liar. So I'm irritated now cause numb nuts called me a damn liar an accused me of accusing him of crap. Should I be questioning him? Or no?

[jorden_rose3]

Okay. Since I read this post, this is what I have to say.

My hubby is divorced and had a son with his ex wife. At first I hated when he talked to her cuz I knew she wanted him back soo bad. She would talk dirty to him, send him complete nude pictures, ask him to send her money, tried calling at night to talk hoping I was asleep, & downgraded me to a T. She is a very rude women. I told her to keep my name out of her mouth, she doesn't know me or anything about our relationship. He wasn't able to block or change the number cuz with them having a son, she needed to have contact at all times. We have been together now a little over 3 years & things have changed. She still talks about us and our son and about me being pregnant again, but its just talk. With his others exs, he still talks to them. With a few of them, he was their first. I don't tell him who he can talk too. I trust him. Never has he given me a reason not too. I believe marriage is about trust & honesty. If you personally feel that what he is doing is wrong and its hurting your feelings or making you mad, you must talk to him. Its better to be honest and tell him that you went through his phone. If you personally feel that there is no problem and you trust him, than don't bring it up to him.

[Cookiex15]

I would make him change his number lol

[Cyn_henderson]

Shoot I hope so too. Cause I'm not the only one that'll be upset.

[maybaby19]

I would deff question it. Not bc she is an sex, but because if he doesn't even answer his mom then what made that conversation so important? Hmmm I hope its nothing hun!

[Cyn_henderson]

Lol times like this make me wish i had a dog. At least I know they'd be loyal lol

[Cookiex15]

You have more than a right to be upset ! If i were you he would be sleeping outside with the dogs lol

[Haliwali]

Ooh hun must definatly your not nuts or hormonal ur sooo right to be upset...why ooh why is his ex still msg or calling him. Your his wife like the other ladies said if ur ex was callin or msg yu at 1am he wouldnt be happy no.man would. You hac every right babe. Xxx

[rosey3216]

Yeah you have a right to be upset and no that doesn't make you crazy lol. I agree, it is inappropriate. I also agree that if he gets defensive or tries to turn the tables on you then start to question a little more..

[Cyn_henderson]

Thanks ladies. So to double check I'm not being hormonal? An I'm not crazy? An I have the right to be upset?

[Cookiex15]

I would be extremely mad and question his ***!

[Cyn_henderson]

I mean I have access to his Facebook I'm usually on his about 2xs a week to update his family aboutour baby an how he's doing in the marines. Usually woth pictures an stuff. An he has access to mine. I don't have anything to hide. But the inly thing I haven't done is go through his messages. I never really found a reason to. I think I will though an if he gets defensive about it then I'll know

[tavey]

Your not crazy at all like ktowne stated above just tell him u want to read the messages if nothing is going on then he should have no reason to hide or get defensive about it if you don't say or do anything it will continue to drive you crazy

[KTowne]

Not at all, and you don't even have to be sneaky about it. Just say "I'm really not comfortable with an ex contacting you at 1am.. (or at all for that matter) and about me especially, do you mind if I read your conversation?" And if he gets defensive I'd be questioning it even more. You're not crazy, I think any wife would feel the same way, it's inappropriate.

[Cyn_henderson]

So I'm not in the wrong of I question it? Lol I don't really know. I mean I've made if very clear to all of his exs in person to keep my business out of their mouths. I'm very blunt. I really don't bead around the bush. But for me it was just weird cause he's not very sociable over any type of media he's more of a face to face kind of guy. Sort of just want to gothrough the messages an read to make sure I'm not losing my mind over nothing. But then if I do that i feel a little like...crazy. Crazy in a since like I shouldn't have to be doing that

[rosey3216]

Yeah I mean if it was just a random message asking about how you're doing since you're pregnant I wouldn't really see a big problem with it... The fact that it was 1 in the morning and he responded anyway when he usually doesn't respond to other people that late is what I find odd. Then to get upset with YOU is just fxcked up.
I'm sorry hun, I'm going through bs like this too and I am lost as well. As with my bf, (and yours) I don't think they have been cheating but are maybe considering a "back up plan" if you will. :(

[KTowne]

Well I certainly don't care how my ex's or their wives/children are doing (not that I wish them any bad, but I just don't care, haha)..why should she care how your husband or you and your child are doing?

[tavey]

That's very disrespectful first its an ex second why is she calling at 1am and asking about you and baby second why did he answer like I find that so disrespectful to you I would have harms something to say and why is he getting pissed with you and going off when you should be the one upset because I guarantee he wouldn't like it if an ex was calling you let alone at 1am asking about him...

[Cyn_henderson]

It was through Facebook messenger. I usually haven't been caring cause she lives in his home town which is 10 hrs away. I just don't like when people ask about me. Like yeah we're married but if I don't like/care for the person my name or my babies name shouldn't be in your mouth.

[charletta92]

I would question it.

[KTowne]

First of all, I wouldn't be comfortable with ANY ex contacting my husband, let alone at 1am asking about my relationship..and I would be SO SO mad if my husband responded.. why does she even have his number? I wouldn't be comfortable with it at all..