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is this okay.... (smoking)
My whole family smokes and so does my fiances family....
Well I've been doing a lot of thinking and i don't want that around my daughter...not just them actually smoking but having cigarette smelling fingers and clothes and ashtray breath.
I want to -in a respectable manor- tell them i don't want them around my brand new baby if they have been smoking.
And i mean the closest i will allow them to her is looking through a window or something.
I feel as though this is not too much to ask considering smoking is a choice and seeing this baby is a choice and they can choose whichever they'd like.
Opinions ladies? Is it too harsh? Suggestions on ways to tell them?
Well I've been doing a lot of thinking and i don't want that around my daughter...not just them actually smoking but having cigarette smelling fingers and clothes and ashtray breath.
I want to -in a respectable manor- tell them i don't want them around my brand new baby if they have been smoking.
And i mean the closest i will allow them to her is looking through a window or something.
I feel as though this is not too much to ask considering smoking is a choice and seeing this baby is a choice and they can choose whichever they'd like.
Opinions ladies? Is it too harsh? Suggestions on ways to tell them?
As momma, it is your job to protect your little girl, no matter what. If that means upsetting some people, than that's what it means. I respect you for being willing to take this step. Ya, your families might be upset. But you need to stand your ground. There are enough things in this world that will try to harm your baby, family doesnt need to be another!
Meg she's your baby and you just want to make sure she's healthy so I totally understand where you're coming from I don't want my baby around smoke either I don't even like to be around it so why would I allow my baby. Just say what needs to be said let them know it's nothing against them you just want what's best for your child.
Well bree....they aren't the ones that just spent 3/4th of the year making this baby girl... I don't care if they even come around her....they're not around now...
It is unreasonable, really, to say you smoke cigarettes you can't hold or even be around my baby. Just have them wash their hands and some perfume and your baby will be fine. I do agree to not take the new born to a house where cigarettes are smoked inside even if they aren't smoking at the time. Have people go to your house to visit the baby
I tried to explain this to my fiance just now and he's kind of saying its unreasonable.... What now?? I will need his support on this to make it work
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