What do i do now????

[Tawana28]

Hello to all my new friends first of all! Second of all, i just got some news that i didnt want to hear.
A while back on this post i was debating whether or not to go through this pregnancy because of my situation'and
then after a long debate i decided to keep the baby. Well, i was taking to the father today and he told me that
a girl that he had messed with long before we started messin is pregnant, due in 5 weeks and says he is
the father. He thought i would be upset, but not really. I am confused now. He already has a little boy who is 2,
now i am pregnant and another girl has popped up claiming to be having his baby too. I really dont know what
to do right now because i dont want to be put into a situation with baby mama drama and that kind of thing. I also dont want this baby and i to struggle because the daddy now has two other mouthes to help feed. What should i do??
Please i really need some advice on this one.

[chitten]

You need to sit down and have a think about what YOU want in life, nothing else.

I am 20 weeks pregnant to my ex who is a complete LOSER.

We were together 3 years and split a year ago but carried on seeing each other. I loved him and he lied, cheated and hurt me time and time again. He even slept with my best friend around the same time i had a cancer scare and a miscarriage!

I found out i was 6/7 weeks pregnant at the end of december and was totally distraught. I had been on the pill and had no reason to suspect pregnancy. I was finally just getting my life back and was out drinking and partying most nights with my girlfriends. I drank and smoked ALOT.

I booked in for a termination on the 8th january this year and on the day i realised go couldnt go through with it.

He was at the hospital with me and wanted me to go ahead with the abortion but i couldnt. This was my choice and i made the decision to keep my baby. I found out last week im hsaving a little girl and i know now i made the rioght decision for me.

If you want to progress with the pregnancy then you CAN do it alone, its difficult but do-able, and if you really dont want to go through with the pregnancy then you dont have to.

I know how difficult a situation you are in and you must make the decision for you and noone else.

Pay no attention to what your ex or anyone else says. This is your life and only you can decide how you want to live it.

[Atlantisea]

If all else fails honey, then what about adoption?
Choose a stable loving family that dreams of a baby, and is financially prepared for the situation. If you really feel you aren't ready for this situation, then it would be the greatest gift you could give another person.

Just thought I'd help mention other options...

[JoyRenee]

Totally agree with the other posters. Come on girl! You're strong, you can do this!!! It would be a million times better to give your child up for adoption than to abort. I find it strange that someone will choose to abort a baby because they "just couldn't handle" giving their baby to strangers who'd love and care for them.

Only you can make this choice and I hope you make the right one! My vote is adoption or you keep your baby. This baby is going to look like you, have bits of your personality, call you Momma and love you unconditionally, etc. This baby is going to naturally and intuitively trust you and it's a trust you don't have to earn. Don't break that trust now.

He really needs to get a paternity test on all these other children to make sure they're even his. If he's not going to own up and take care of this child he has with you, there are ways---courts will take money straight from his paycheck. And if you don't want to deal with the "baby-momma-drama" then cut him out of your life and move on WITH your child. Don't give the baby up because of his selfishness... or yours.

[shi08]

Hold your head up and note that you are a strong enough to handle yourself accordingly.
Don't give that scum the benefit of even thinking that he is important enough to influence your decision about your baby.  You never know what god had has blessed your womb with.  That baby may be an angel from heaven or a genius.  You have to keep in mind that god is the only one that can bring forth life and if life is growing inside of you, then it is destined to be there. God has equipped you with everything you need for this game called "life" and your baby is just an addition to that.

[natemomma27]

you are a 28 year old woman...you are more than capable of taking care of yourself and your child. im glad you decided to go through with the pregnancy! as for the baby-mama drama...dont buy into it, dont let someone else or yourself for that matter fall for something so ridiculous! you put your focus into yourself and your child. you mentioned in ur previous post about braging about being independent, take that independence and channel it into being a good mother! check into government assistance and take anything available to you to better you and your child's life. dont feel bad for doing what's best and what you are able to do for your life!

also on a curious side note...why did it take this 'man' (boy in my opinion) almost 9 months to tell you he had another girl pregnant? to me personally, this only proves how immature he is and how much you dont need/should/want to rely on him!

[sweetangel7]

Tough situation...not really my business but do you know if he financially supports his 2 year old?  Does he plan on supporting this 'new' baby that will be here in 5 weeks?  Does he have the means to support two other children and yours?  What is your living situation?  I think some more info would be helpful to give better advice...