Last name problem's

[carcarly31]

So I'm almost 35 weeks and I just started talking to my baby's father and his family the other day and their starting to pressuring me about giving the baby his last name but I want it to be mine and so does my family I mentioned to do both but his family doesn't want that so no matter what I chose someone is gonna be disappointed

[Ftm1990]

I'd give your baby your last name and tell him and his family that you all aren't married,and from what I gather your not even dating.your going to be pushing that baby out.not them or him.if you were married or at least in a long term relationship then yeah I'd give my child his last name but until he found a way to prove to me that he wouldn't run out on my child then my decision would be firm with my own last name.theres a lot of other things that can interfere with giving your child his or her dads last name but you all not being married..I'd look into that so I could give them proper excuses.

[TurnOnTheLight]

Give your child your name. Father doesn't sound like he deserves it but if he proves otherwise then you can change it later.

[kupcakexx]

Honestly if he hasn't been there the entire time I'd give the baby my last name. My aunt gave her now 10 year old daughter her father's name and since he's never been there for her she wants her name changed to our last name.

[celia_6]

Wow

[Pamela0128]

Im having the same problem,  but im giving my babies both and he still is upset but I don't care im giving birth they are my children so my decision.

[fangeorgetevin_1]

Im in the same boat bt I figure hay think abt hw he treats u while ur pregnant&if he deserves that so far my daughters dad is undeserving so im naming my bby after me &idgaf who dnt like it

[carcarly31]

We probably wouldn't be talking if his sister never found out cause she's the one who got us to start talking again but I know at the end of the day it's what I picked I just don't want the argument

[haaleyskye]

Give it both. Im in the same position. But how i look at it is im carrying the baby, i made the baby, they didnt so im going to do what i want just like they did with their kids. youre not married you dont know how long itll last and you might regret giving it his last name later.

[rebeccaann11]

I would tell his family you would feel more comfortable with the baby Having your laat name. If they have a problem with it tell them  you can change baby's name later on.
I'm sure they're going to be very mad that you don't want to give the baby his last name.  you have every right to give the baby Your last name

[ash060115]

I learned the hard way to always give your kids the same name as you...

[FirstTimeMommy89]

I would put both and everyone should be happy

[rebeccaann11]

Of I am correct you posted that he really has it ever been there for you or the baby Through the pregnancy. I remember you posting awhile back and he started caring and walking by your classroom. But truly believe it does not matter if baby has your last name or his last name. I would give the baby your last name for now and if things work out you can always change the baby's last name later on

[carcarly31]

No were not married but no matter what I pick I can't win someone is gonna be disappointed at the end of this

[noides]

Are you married? Imo, if you're not married you're free to give him w/e name you like. He/she can change it when they're older.

[jam11spo]

Follow your instincts,  your the mommy.