father problems.

[acocole]

Recently found out im pregnant and was over the moon but the babys dad  is begging me me to have an abortion tellingme this is all my fault im pathetic and ridiculous and that if i brought a baby into the world knowing he dont want to no im selfish. I dont no what to do. Was extatic. Now hes just making me feel crap

[specialmom]

Ah, I'm so sorry. That is really hard.  

Abortion is a good option IF it is what a woman wants.  If it is not what she wants, no one should force, manipulate or coerce her into having one.  It's your body and YOUR choice.  

I guess I'd think of terms of him not being in the picture and getting a plan together as to how you'll handle things on your own.  Single parenthood isn't easy but plenty of women do it and it all turns out fine.  

So, do what you feel is best.  Maybe he'll come around and maybe he won't.  But this decision is up to you.  Do you have a supportive family??

Oh, and if it really feels like a difficult time and too much to handle, there is also the wonderful option of adoption.  that's not for everyone either so again, only do what is right for you.  good luck dear

[nicholove]

*protect

[nicholove]

Good!! Let him think what he wants.. Later on you'll look down at your baby's beautiful face and realize leaving him was so wOrth it if it meant the only way of having your little angel..a baby is a blessing a baby daddy is only that.a donor unless he man's up and becomes a father. But hang in there and just always keep in the back of your head that there is a little you inside and now your job is to perfect it.good luck! And stay positive

[acocole]

Thanks guys means alot and has really helped. You wouldnt believe this man already has a child who he says is hes world and he dont want to father another one! Ive told him i wont get rid and i can do it myself with frineds and familys support and he says thats selfish. Dont see why this should be all about him and what he wants. This is my decision and if he dont wana be a part of it he dont have to be. Will be his loss

[Mommyoftwo22]

Put him on child support!

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

Oh and he also said if i get an abortion he will be with me, but if i have the baby he wont want to be with me, but will just "take care of the baby". I said i dont care if he is with me im not getting an abortion. And he just doesnt understand whats so hard about getting an abortion. Even after i explained the process to him.

[collegeMarriedpregnant]

Speaking from experience all my friends who got abortions because the boyfriend didn't want it really regretted it.  Don't have an abortion for him.  If he doesn't come around he is not the right one for you I say rely on those who support you not the ones who being you down.  

[2ndBabyDueFeb13th]

SAME THING with mine. First i was scared, then i realized i could do it and wanted to have the baby, he reacted really confused, said he wanted me to keep it, then got scared and said he isnt ready, then is putting hella pressure on me for an abortion and telling me he doesnt want it, but will be there if i have it. Now he needs soace to think so im leaving him alone ubtil he gets it together.

[tattoobabyjean]

I'm sorry but when you have unprotected sex,babies are often a result. He needs to stop being so selfish, every action has consequences. Abortion should never be an alternative when you can adopt.

Regardless this is your baby and your body. You do what you want and if he can't be supportive he can get ready for child support and to take a hike.

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

Kick him to the curb.