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fiance' issues!
Has anyone else had a fiance' who thought it was okay just go to his buddies house for a complete weekend and expect them to stay at home with all the animals and responsibilies? Who agrees that he should just go for the day, then come home. Because apparently he has a WHOLE lot of growing up to do. He always makes decisons without consulting me, and expects me to pay for everything. He has NO job, NO license, and i have the job, the license, and the money! He has been supposedly getting a job, but always is concentrating on what his friends are doing next. I'm six weeks pregnant, and idk if i can do it much longer.. i have this strange feeling that i want to be with him all the time that im SO in love with him, and i hate it because i get the vibes that he doesn't care. Please someone help, before things fall off the deep end.
My husband is 21 and acts like a 4 year old and I left him for it...we are working on thinngs now, but he has to WANT to work on it hun. And as a 16 year old guy, I can almost promise that he doesnt want to. Maybe take some time apart and when you start getting bigger and having ultrasounds it will hit him that its real. Thats what happened with us, I found out I was having a boy and came up with a name, and he realized what all he was missing. Good luck hun
I agree with the poster who said do you want to take care of two babies, or one? My husband is chronologically an adult, has been for a long time, but sometimes he pulls a pout or a childish thing and I feel that way. I don't want to be the only grownup, especially since expecting adult behavior from him and not getting it, is worse than it would be if he wasn't around at all. You don't need your boyfriend dragging on you! He's going to be passive-aggressive for the next ten years at least, feeling sorry for himself that he's in this situation and taking it out on you. You're of necessity already saddled with the care of one baby, and you'll love it and have fun. You won't love having your supposed partner being the second baby. Think hard, get child support lined up with your lawyer, and give your boyfriend the chance to be in your lives. Then maybe later on you can give him a chance to prove to you that he has grown up.
My husband and I just turned 20. We've been together since we were 16. When we were 16, all he did was play video games NON STOP and talk to his friends, etc. Now, he works, supports me, does housework, cooks, and caters to me nd whatever I need. Still plays video games, but I come first.
Guys are babies. Proven to mature significantly slower than women.
Guys are babies. Proven to mature significantly slower than women.
Mama is absolutely right sweety. I've been there too, I was 17 when my first son was born turned 18 11 days later. And I was in your EXACT spot....I did marry the KID, and u know what NOTHING changed .....EVER!! We ended up divorced and he gave up his rights to his son, when he was 2, and never saw us again, my boy is now 13! Like mama said, he is a KID, he won't 'grow up' for MANY years! They say a man reaches maturity at abt 25-28. They aren't hardwired the way we are. As a mom you have the drive to take care of your baby & life. You CAN do it on your own. You basically are right now, u have the job, car, license, pays the bills.....do you really want to raise 2 kids???? I'm not saying down the road he may not pull his head out. But right now, focus on you and that baby. Let him be the kid he is gonna be without stressing you out. Th reality is he may never 'man up' for you or this baby. I know.its not what u want but I can't sit by and not share having gone thru what you are now. Good luck!
Let him go. Hes not going to man up anytime soon. Sounds like hes too interested in being a teenager still! Best thing you can do is call it quits with him until he can grow up. Your baby should see you happy! And its going to be hard to be happy if hes always out doing God knows what with God knows who.
A mom becomes a mom the moment she finds out shes pregnant. A dad doesnt become a dad until he sees his baby. So if i were you i would give him an ultimatum and tell him to either man up or you and baby are gone!
Good luck hun
A mom becomes a mom the moment she finds out shes pregnant. A dad doesnt become a dad until he sees his baby. So if i were you i would give him an ultimatum and tell him to either man up or you and baby are gone!
Good luck hun
My husband is 32 we started dating when he was 28... He STILL acted like that the first year. Yes I put up with it but my point is this-your guy is a child hes got another 10+ years to get to the point mine is and hope he grows up... Do you really want to wait? Get out while you can you are so young and it will be better for you and baby!
I had my first son a 16 and my (now husband) was 17 almost 18. It was the lonliest time of my life. He was always gone and because of this he almost missed our sons birth. He didnt change completely until we moved in together 3 years later.
Plain and simple hes a KID. Regardless of wether or not he got you pregnant the odds are stacked against you because the chances of him actually maning up and taking repsonsibility for his actions at this point are slim to none. I hate to say that but its the truth.
All I can tell you is your baby has to come first. Forget him and what hes doing. Because all your going to do is drive yourself crazy keeping tabs on him. Let it go. If its meant to be one day it will be. Yes you are having a baby together but you cant force him to be there, Hes only going to resent you for it causing animosity between you to. Your baby wants you happy not crying and worrying about him. Best advice I can give you because Ive been there and done that. Only you can use the advice sweety
Plain and simple hes a KID. Regardless of wether or not he got you pregnant the odds are stacked against you because the chances of him actually maning up and taking repsonsibility for his actions at this point are slim to none. I hate to say that but its the truth.
All I can tell you is your baby has to come first. Forget him and what hes doing. Because all your going to do is drive yourself crazy keeping tabs on him. Let it go. If its meant to be one day it will be. Yes you are having a baby together but you cant force him to be there, Hes only going to resent you for it causing animosity between you to. Your baby wants you happy not crying and worrying about him. Best advice I can give you because Ive been there and done that. Only you can use the advice sweety
Sorry, honey, but at 16 he is still a boy. It doesn't matter if he got you pregnant, he's a teenager.
How seriously do you want to be married to this guy? If so, you two should have some counseling.
How seriously do you want to be married to this guy? If so, you two should have some counseling.
He is 16 and i'm 17. So i guess its expected.. but i expect more out of him, since i can't obiviosly get myself pregnant he needs to step up and add realize he now has to be an adult.. not a teenager.
Seriously that is teenager crap. I wouldnt put up with that. He needs to step up and take responsibility for his actions. I wouldnt have the patience for it no matter how much I loved him.
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