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Does the babies father or the baby matter more?
Im 15 and the babies father is trying to make me choose between him and the baby. If I keep the baby he said he will leave me. If I don't theb he will stay. He has lots of dreams for baseball and lader photonics and thinks he will have to give those things up. We have so much fun together and I've never shared anything like I have with him with anyone else. He is the sweetest most honest person ive been with.. he loves me he just doesnt want a hard life.
so who matters more? Who is it more morally correct by most standards to keep? The baby or the father?
I'm asking for an opinion and some advice, not a "it's your choice" kind of thing. That doesnt help me.
so who matters more? Who is it more morally correct by most standards to keep? The baby or the father?
I'm asking for an opinion and some advice, not a "it's your choice" kind of thing. That doesnt help me.
No Disrespect Because Your Still Young && Really Dont Know But Should Know Your Child Always Come First && Matters The Most ' Damn The Daddy ' How Old Is He If He Don't Mind Me Asking .
It looks like you have already seen the same kind of response I would give about the jerk you slept with. I would like to clear up some misconceptions that people have posted however.
There is ABSOLUTELY NO EVIDENCE that a woman (or a girl) who has an elective abortion will have difficulty getting pregnant or carrying to term in the future. This is a lie propagated by the pro-birth community and there is no truth to it whatsoever.
There is ABSOLUTELY NO EVIDENCE that a woman (or a girl) who has an elective abortion will have difficulty getting pregnant or carrying to term in the future. This is a lie propagated by the pro-birth community and there is no truth to it whatsoever.
Just because he won't be there does not mean someone else won't come around and step up as a father.
My best friend went through the very same thing and told her ex to go screw himself and ended up finding a very amazing guy who has been the father of another mans baby and now she also has two more children. Just because this boy won't step up doesn't mean someone else won't ....don't base that on him.
My best friend went through the very same thing and told her ex to go screw himself and ended up finding a very amazing guy who has been the father of another mans baby and now she also has two more children. Just because this boy won't step up doesn't mean someone else won't ....don't base that on him.
hon I'm sure you love him but I think it's a horrible thing for him to try to get you to get rid of the baby. A baby is a wonderful thing. if you personally don't think you can handle a baby then adoption Is Is a wonderful thing. but if you want the baby I wouldnt listen to father.
I was never considering abortion. just adoption. I dont want by baby to grow up without a dad like i did.
to clear something up I wasn't considering abortion, by give up i meant adoption. but everyones help is very much appreciated
Im not trying to be rude but that's a stupid question your children always come first its common sense. You're young still you will have other relationships. If a guy is trying to make you chose he is obviously a nobody and doesn't deserve something as wonderful as a child.
The baby you will always have he could leave at anytime plus u get money from child support.. Stay strong and it will work out. A baby is the best thing u can have in life... There's always adoption
The baby you will always have he could leave at anytime plus u get money from child support.. Stay strong and it will work out. A baby is the best thing u can have in life... There's always adoption
If he really loved u and was such a wonderful guy he wouldn't be threatening to leave unless u terminate u and HIS child. He sounds worthless and full of it and no matter what u do with the baby I wouldn't stay with him
but in all reality you're 15 years old you're going to have plenty more relationships down the road. And this dude needs to be kicked to the side of the road, I don't think he's worth your time.
you should pick your child before you pick any man even if it is a baby's daddy or not. I'm sorry hun but I'll be the one to say it you won't be with this dude for the rest of your life, it's so rare now for people to stay with one person for the rest of their life. People are doing it but its very rare, & I don't see a high school relationship lasting especially if he's going to make you pick between baby and him. That should tell you what kind of man he is.
Honey your still a baby yourself. I'm not trying to be mean but if that us a serious question you shouldn't be having a baby. You both decided to have sex and now you are having a baby . Ask yourself if that baby chose to be conceived ask yourself if you don't have the support from the father which you dont obviously whose gun a support that baby?? The chances of your boyfriend stepping up are slim to none especially now a days where kids are told they don't have to be there ...you will have to grow up and be an adult way before any of you friends you will have to make decisions that aren't for you but for another life. This isn't something that's just fun a go away either there are serious issues that happen to a women's psychology when an abortion is performed so you need to think of that too. Something could go wrong and youay never have kids again all because this boy says he's going to stay if you don't have this baby.
You need to sit down with your parents and his and have a grown up talk about what your options are: If your/his parents are going to help support you and it till your out of school. Whether abortion is even an option and then you need to know what consequences are possible if that's what you choose. If you do have this baby and on one will help support are you going to have to quit school and get a job.
You have some serious thinking to do and you need to be ready to accept the consequences of both your decisions.
You need to sit down with your parents and his and have a grown up talk about what your options are: If your/his parents are going to help support you and it till your out of school. Whether abortion is even an option and then you need to know what consequences are possible if that's what you choose. If you do have this baby and on one will help support are you going to have to quit school and get a job.
You have some serious thinking to do and you need to be ready to accept the consequences of both your decisions.
That shouldn't even be a question the baby that bf of ur doesn't care at all for you or the baby no matter what he says he just showed u his true colors. And by ur question are you ready to be responsible for the baby sins u don't know what to pick I'm not trying to sound mean or judgmental at all but if you can't make this distion it worrys me how you going to deal with the stress that is to come with the baby but yet again you can realize how important the baby truly is to you and be an awsome mother :) to ur baby and provide for him or her their always adoption that's a beautiful and unselfish thing but at the end of the day ur choice. I hope I helped a little :)
The baby matters most. Hes gotta deal and toull be perfectly fine on your own. Dont let this guy ruin your chances of being a mom. Cuz if you get rid of your baby your gonna regret it later on
I dont mean to be or sound rude but thats a dumb question.... honestly your baby should be the most important thing or person in your life. Even over your family. That child depends on you to keep it alive. No man woman or friend should ever persuade you to give up a child. How i see it is if youre "dumb" enough to get pregnant then be smart enough to step up and raise it. If you werent ready to be a parent you shouldve had birth control and made him use protection also. If you didnt take the precautions ahead of time then that baby is what youre going to have. Im a ftm. I was dumb. Shouldve been on something or used protection but owell. I have a baby on the way and theres no way im letting anybody get in the way of me raising my child. Even if my family werent supportive i wouldnt care. Id raise my baby regardless of what anyone said.
id say the baby.. the baby never chose to live and exist.. therefore, the baby deserves the responsible one to take care and love him.. i was 19 when i 1st got pregnant.. my ex was hurting me and beating me up.. i got scared coz he might leave me.. so i continued with my baby and at the same time tried keeping my ex.. when my baby became 2 years old..i got pregnant again.. my ex started hurting me again and that time i had a miscarriage.. i realized that he never wanted the baby.. he just wanted me to need him and at the same time wanted someone to take care of him.. he never liked the baby.. so i went to the police and asked help.. they puy him in jail and i worked so hard just to keep my baby.. i was all alone.. eventually.. i now have a nice job.. i met my husband a year ago.. my daughter is turning 5 and im 9 weeks 2 days preggo.. im just saying that life doesnt end with one man.. just because you love him.. if he does love you.. he'll love everything about you even your baby..
I agree with these ladies BUT ladied please remember one thing.... this has nothing to do with any man the main thing is to not bring a child into the world just because he/she wont walk out on u like the father can... the child doesnt necessarily choose to be put in that situation either. So as much as everyone saying baby because itll always love u or stay with u that sounds a little selfish because the innocent child doesnt have an option.
I say baby because men come and go but you will always be a mom no matter what! He can always follow his dreams and be a father at the same time even if he does not want to be a father right now he will be the one with that empty feeling if he decided to not have any part in the child's life. You can also follow your dreams. Just because your pregnant at a young age does not mean you have to give up everything you just have to work as hard as the next fifteen year old to better you and your child's life. Good luck!
I would never give up my child im 18 weeks and 3days along my exfiancee said he would always be there for both of us but I found out 2 months later he was seeing another woman like alot of woman here said he isn't worth your time if he is all ready wanting you to choose between him or you child always choose your child. Cuz they will always love you. And on another note supporting your child is not easy but there is alot of help out there for single moms I know that its gonna be hard but life always finds a way to help. some times its are harded than others but you always make it. Hope everything goes good for you and your bf changes his mind if he's worried about what he wants to do he has his whole life ahead of him its not to late for he can still do what he wants and be with you it might be more work but he can do it if he sets his mind to it if he really loves you he will understand. And one more thing if you do get an abortion it is way harded for some woman to get pregnant your more likely to have miscarages hope you the best
Obvious answer is baby cuhs baby will always love you n never leave you or make you choose
Put aside the fact he wants to live out his dreams. With or without him can YOU support that baby? Is raising this child not only gonna cut your chances of a successful shot at life but, is that baby going to have everything they need growing up? Adoption is an amazing option for young mothers who can't provide everything that baby needs. Yes its your child, but in my opinion its more selfish to keep the baby simply because its yours if that childs going to always need growing up. People looking to adopt can give that child the world and are just waiting on the opportunity, don't make it about him being more important make it about which way will give your child a better life!
Your baby is more important than so guy.... dont let him have that kind of mind control ovet you, id tell him don't let the door hit ya on the way out.. what a jerkish thing to say to someone you "love"
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