wanting to do this alone...

[jne1233]

I actually like the idea of parenting alone. I dnt think I have to be with some one for my child to have male figure in her life, I have brothers and cousin.... I just like the idea of being a single mom, the dad will only get in the way and continue to do nothing lol... What do you guys think?  

[jkababy]

I raised my first daughter alone with family support and she's doing great, she's 7 now and her father is only just starting to appreciate the time and effort that goes into raising a child - very frustrating but better late than never! You should do what feels best for you and your little one

[sorenr]

If a father is not actively involved then yes, you are better off alone. I was married when I had my first 2 children and never had any real support from my husband, I had to ask for time out from the kids, I had to near have an arguement just to get him off his *** to get them a drink (because poor him had to work and was tired all the time!). It took me too long to realise that I genuinely would be better off alone and that I had lost all respect and love for him.

Now we are apart he knows what he has lost and makes a great effort with the kids and I have a lot of respect for him as he has graciously accepted that another man now lives with his kids and I am having another baby, he has never failed to turn up for his kids

[jne1233]

I agree as well but he's not involved. I'm just trying to find the brighter side of doing it alone I guess...

[sadies93]

As long as you have the family and friends to support you emotionally and to be there for your child. I do believe every child should get the chance to have a relationship with their father