possible break up

[AuziNikol]

I'm considering leaving my bf. He is not the father of my baby, but wants to be since he is sterile and the actual father doesn't want to be involved. We dated on and off for a few years and I got pregnant while we were broken up and got back together before I found out. I had no plans of getting back with him it just kind of happened. I've been trying to convince myself I'm happy, because I know how excited him and his family are and I don't want a messy break up. I don't know how I'd respond if I broke up with him and he asked to still be involved with the baby. My grandma doesn't like how his family functions and I really don't either. But its not actually his baby, should I let him be involved still? Or should I be a b!+¢h about it and say no? I don't hate him, I don't want to hurt him, I'm just not happy. Hes selfish and is extremely attached to his mom, like overly attached. I'm not sure what to do

[samik20]

Yeah I hear what ur saying but imagine 2  or 3 years down the line and he cud wait full time assess  if his name was on birth cert ... It cud make things quiet difficult for u or in the future u cud meet a man and be happy and he cud become jealous and make things hard for u if ur gna leave him u shud go for a fresh start u don't need anyone to be happy and ur child needs no1 only u :) hope I helped a small bit ha I'm so anti men at the moment ha over my own situation but I can truly say I'm happy :) and on the plus side u won't have to entertain anyone u can give ur full attention to ur baby wen he or she is born ... :)

[AuziNikol]

Thanks :) that really makes me feel better. I don't think he would abandon the child if I allowed him to be involved but there's always the chance

[Staceyyyyy91314]

He sounds weird.. sorry, it's just weird that he would still try to be in baby's life although he is not the father lol. Same with his family. If you're unhappy, I say go ahead and leave. You don't owe ANYONE an explanation!

[samik20]

Im not with the father off my child either we split up not so long ago and personally I am better off from doing so his family had different lifestyle than I was used too and he didn'tprovide at all iI felt I was completely on my own but I'm glad to say I'm settled down and I'm actually happy I'm due my baby in 2 weeks and I'm going to be a one parent family with my son but that's no harm my child will have everything he needs ... If I was u and u don't seem happy I would finish things as u state that's what u want to do but think for ur Childs sake is it right to grow up with a father figure that's not biological and cud walk out of his or her life wen he feels like it after ur child bonding with him if it was me I'd cut all ties as I wouldn't think it was fair to the child but that my personal opinion u cud think differently :) u and ur child can be happy on ur own like me and mine :)