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Please help with name!!!
Alright so I've got about 8 weeks to come up with a name if not less so I'm going to need some help. We were planning on naming the baby Navy but it turns out my ex's (first daughters father) cousin just named his daughter Navy. I know it shouldn't seem like that big of a deal but DH is totally put out and doesn't want to have any connection to that side of the family and feel's like the name Navy is just going to remind him of it. But if we don't find anything else then he'll go with it. So anyways here are a couple names I was thinking of. Please let me know which one you like best. Autumn has to be the middle name because it is family tradition.
wow, tough decision! We named our first child by vote as well lol but it was only family and very close friends who got to vote. Her name is Iva (Eva) Anna, the second child was named before conception because I just fell in love with the name. We did look at the cultural element as well, I am part Swedish, part Cherokee (yes weird combo I know lol), and my husband is half Japanese which is where Iva came from. Daughter 2 got a Swedish name Svea (Suh-vey-uuhh). Now I'm pregnant with child 3 hopefully a boy so we will see what we end up with this time. Good luck!
oh gosh, alaysha! id be scared to trust that method, lol. there were 5 in my family and i was the only one with brown hair at birth (all others blond). growing up, everyone's hair eventually turned to dark brown between the ages of 5 and 15.
maybe that doesn't happen for everyone tho
maybe that doesn't happen for everyone tho
LOL when i saw your first response, i was about to say "oh wait no, it's her ex's *cousin's* baby". too funny! but you're right, if it would be her ex's kid, then it would pose a problem.
Alaysha----i hope that you and your husband will be able to break through the wall that this issue is trying to box you in with. My current state started with a simple and understandable statement exactly like the one you relayed. My partner said "I don't want to have to be reminded of it..." It seemed harmless, and as I said totally understandable, at the time. But that one small statement, one time, snowballed into a life of limitations. There are enough limitations in each of our lives that we can't control. So it's my hope that you will not carry unnecessary limits with you.
The enemy tries to trap you... but you are free. :-)
Alaysha----i hope that you and your husband will be able to break through the wall that this issue is trying to box you in with. My current state started with a simple and understandable statement exactly like the one you relayed. My partner said "I don't want to have to be reminded of it..." It seemed harmless, and as I said totally understandable, at the time. But that one small statement, one time, snowballed into a life of limitations. There are enough limitations in each of our lives that we can't control. So it's my hope that you will not carry unnecessary limits with you.
The enemy tries to trap you... but you are free. :-)
Yeah Navy is his cousins daughters name. Its kinda a stretch but its just that the name is so unusual it seems weird to have it in both families. I don't know. I'm kinda trying to see if DH will go with this idea.
DH and his family and my parents all have super dark brown/black hair and everytime I think of the name Navy I imagine a little girl with dark hair. But I have red hair and both my sisters have light brown/blond hair. So what I was thinking is when she is born to give her a name based on hair color. For instance:
Dark hair = Navy
Blond/Light Brown hair = Alba
Red hair = Ailbe or Aoife (both traditional Irish names)
Only problem with this is that my parents had this same theory before I was born and when I came out they thought I had dark hair because my hair was wet and named me Malia. Once it dried it was red so they gave me the middle name Autumn (not that I am complaining) which would have been my first name if they noticed my hair was red in the beginning.
DH and his family and my parents all have super dark brown/black hair and everytime I think of the name Navy I imagine a little girl with dark hair. But I have red hair and both my sisters have light brown/blond hair. So what I was thinking is when she is born to give her a name based on hair color. For instance:
Dark hair = Navy
Blond/Light Brown hair = Alba
Red hair = Ailbe or Aoife (both traditional Irish names)
Only problem with this is that my parents had this same theory before I was born and when I came out they thought I had dark hair because my hair was wet and named me Malia. Once it dried it was red so they gave me the middle name Autumn (not that I am complaining) which would have been my first name if they noticed my hair was red in the beginning.
oopss take back everything i said!! i misread!! i thought it was ur ex's daughter not his cousins!! thats completely different!!! GOOOOOO with the name you love... your daughter and his cousins daughter will probly never meet each other so there is no need for you to stress over it... keep the name you love! plus.. like jessbbg said other than ur daughter you have no other connection to him and its not fair that u have to go with something u dont like because of it.. (now if the situation was as i had first understood it was then it would be different... but in this case... no)
The other little girl would not be Aspen's sister--she said this is her ex's cousin who is naming their daughter Navy.
To me, that's not even that close enough of a relation to care. I'd stick with Navy.
To me, that's not even that close enough of a relation to care. I'd stick with Navy.
I completely agree with you as to not letting that bother them... but you do have to remember she has an older daughter with her ex and this little girl is going to be going back and forth from sister to sister calling them navy (a) and navy (b) to be able to specify which one of her closed aged sisters shes talking about...
Honestly, if before you found out about the ex's family association with Navy, you both wanted and liked that name, I would encourage you strongly to stick with it. I've had to do a lot of "growing up" in the last couple of years and one thing i've learned is that we often construct our own prisons. Example from my own life so it makes sense: Something bad happened at such and such a place so we refuse to go near it ever again. Now we can't go to that part of town. And if we get near it or glance that way, we are consumed with horrible memories of what happened. When our daughter was born, I loved the name Delaney, but there is a park in that area of town where that bad thing happened that my partner felt was too close of an association so I had to settle on a name I didn't want. Before long, we transfer out of the city completely and now every time we have to return for family functions we are haunted by those memories.
Now, I dislike my own daughter's name, I can't go back to the city in which my family and so many friends live and where I had a promising future, and I'm in a strange place with no friends and a general sense of sadness and dissatisfaction. I feel trapped, and like I've pushed myself so far into this hole that it would be monumental to break free. When all I had to do was just say "Yes, what happened was bad, and painful, but I am stronger because of it, I have learned from it. And I'm not going to let an inanimate object (in this case a restaurant parking lot) have that kind of power over me. Of course I don't have a desire to go live in that spot, but what good will it do to let a parking lot dictate my life?
I guess the moral of the story is, what good will come of letting your ex----whom you have already broken free of---or his family have any power over your life now? Why would you let them take away something that you and your husband loved, which would be your daughter's name? Don't let them take that away from you. They don't have a right to that kind of power over your life anymore. You are done with him. So be done with him and don't let him affect you in your new life without him.
I hope that made sense... I just really felt strongly about that for you, like it's an injustice to let him take that name from you and your husband when it's something you loved. :-)
And on a side note, I just discovered by accident that my daughter's name---both first and middle---is the EXACT SAME as my ex-husband's neice (his sister's daughter). His sister was early on in her pregnancy when we split, i haven't seen or spoken with anyone in his family or close to it in 8 years, we live on opposite sides of the country. How's that for karma? And ultimately, I can tie it back to letting this place I spoke of control me. But either way, it doesn't matter. Because the name I chose, whether it was my first choice or not, had nothing to do with my ex or his family.
Now, I dislike my own daughter's name, I can't go back to the city in which my family and so many friends live and where I had a promising future, and I'm in a strange place with no friends and a general sense of sadness and dissatisfaction. I feel trapped, and like I've pushed myself so far into this hole that it would be monumental to break free. When all I had to do was just say "Yes, what happened was bad, and painful, but I am stronger because of it, I have learned from it. And I'm not going to let an inanimate object (in this case a restaurant parking lot) have that kind of power over me. Of course I don't have a desire to go live in that spot, but what good will it do to let a parking lot dictate my life?
I guess the moral of the story is, what good will come of letting your ex----whom you have already broken free of---or his family have any power over your life now? Why would you let them take away something that you and your husband loved, which would be your daughter's name? Don't let them take that away from you. They don't have a right to that kind of power over your life anymore. You are done with him. So be done with him and don't let him affect you in your new life without him.
I hope that made sense... I just really felt strongly about that for you, like it's an injustice to let him take that name from you and your husband when it's something you loved. :-)
And on a side note, I just discovered by accident that my daughter's name---both first and middle---is the EXACT SAME as my ex-husband's neice (his sister's daughter). His sister was early on in her pregnancy when we split, i haven't seen or spoken with anyone in his family or close to it in 8 years, we live on opposite sides of the country. How's that for karma? And ultimately, I can tie it back to letting this place I spoke of control me. But either way, it doesn't matter. Because the name I chose, whether it was my first choice or not, had nothing to do with my ex or his family.
Personally, I'd go with either Navy or Alba, not because the other names aren't lovely, but you do realize that when the average American person of any level of education (from high school drop out to PhD) is going to look at the other names and stumble on how to pronounce it or spell it. Your child will spend a lifetime spelling out and pronouncing her name for almost every single person with whom she comes into contact. And until she can talk and spell, you and your family will be the ones doing it. Every time you go to sign her up for something, anything, you'll be saying her name is ____, and that's spelled ____. Then you'll be hearing comments over and over and over again such as "That's an unusual name," and "How'd you come up with that name?" and "What is that, a family name?"
My son's name is Greydon Rhys (pronounced Reese). His middle name is Welsh, and his first name is Modern English. Most people are used to the name Greyson, and tons of people mistake his name for that if they don't see it spelled out. I've gotten the comment "Is that a family name?" so often it's not even funny. I mean, his name isn't *that* out there or unusual, I think. Not that the comment bothers me, because people seem to love his name, it's just that they've never heard it before. I'm just thankful I rarely have to spell it out for people and I've never had to tell people how it's pronounced.
As for his middle name...well, that's why it's his middle name. I didn't want to go through pronouncing it and spelling it for 9 out of 10 people every single day, and I didn't want him to have to grow up with that burden either.
My son's name is Greydon Rhys (pronounced Reese). His middle name is Welsh, and his first name is Modern English. Most people are used to the name Greyson, and tons of people mistake his name for that if they don't see it spelled out. I've gotten the comment "Is that a family name?" so often it's not even funny. I mean, his name isn't *that* out there or unusual, I think. Not that the comment bothers me, because people seem to love his name, it's just that they've never heard it before. I'm just thankful I rarely have to spell it out for people and I've never had to tell people how it's pronounced.
As for his middle name...well, that's why it's his middle name. I didn't want to go through pronouncing it and spelling it for 9 out of 10 people every single day, and I didn't want him to have to grow up with that burden either.
What about Lexi Autumn instead of Luxe ? I do like autumn a lot. And I love unusual names, but I also prefer to be able to read it like it sounds. That way she doesn't have to worry about correcting people her entire life, especially in school all the way through college.....
i agree alba is very uncommon specially in the english language.. it is spanish for dawn.. and i think it would go great with autumm.... Good luck!! and though i like navy i think ur dh is right... i wouldnt want my oldest to have two sisters from diff sides named the same specially when they are so close in age!!
ppl sooo do still mock names, i hear it all the time :-)
Celebs r the worst for naming their children. I mean why, why would you call your poor child Apple (Gwyn Paltro) or Blossom (Gerri Halliwell) or Moses (whatever celeb that was) Or bruce willis and demi moore calling their children, rumour scout and tallulah - scout is something you should call a dog not a child.
God next it will be naming them Orange or Moonbeem lol.
Lots of ppl giv daft names to make a statement, when they really should think about the poor child.
The best way to do it is, imagine yourself with the name you have chosen, and if your happy to go about life with that name then fair enough, but if not, dont make you child suffer lol.
There is different, unusual, common, sweet and just plain stupid lol
Celebs r the worst for naming their children. I mean why, why would you call your poor child Apple (Gwyn Paltro) or Blossom (Gerri Halliwell) or Moses (whatever celeb that was) Or bruce willis and demi moore calling their children, rumour scout and tallulah - scout is something you should call a dog not a child.
God next it will be naming them Orange or Moonbeem lol.
Lots of ppl giv daft names to make a statement, when they really should think about the poor child.
The best way to do it is, imagine yourself with the name you have chosen, and if your happy to go about life with that name then fair enough, but if not, dont make you child suffer lol.
There is different, unusual, common, sweet and just plain stupid lol
I love love love Alba... Its so different, and now a days people really dont pick on names as much... (apple coco lol) I also like the Gaelic/Irish names as my DF is 100% Irish and I think it is always great to name your children something of their heritage!
How about Kaya
I personally still like Navy
I also like Spiket77's suggestion of Havana a lot...i think Havana Autumn sounds suuuuper cute!
My 2 cents is the name Azalea...like the flower.
I also like Spiket77's suggestion of Havana a lot...i think Havana Autumn sounds suuuuper cute!
My 2 cents is the name Azalea...like the flower.
Here are some different names ...just for fun
Havana
Kamilah
Nadja
Phaedra (It it's a Fh sound. One of my girlfriend's named her girl this)
Zinnia (My favorite flower)
It just seems like after hearing your name that your little girl should have something just as beautiful.
Havana
Kamilah
Nadja
Phaedra (It it's a Fh sound. One of my girlfriend's named her girl this)
Zinnia (My favorite flower)
It just seems like after hearing your name that your little girl should have something just as beautiful.
Aww thank you! :)
All the ones that are spelled weird are Gaelic/Irish names. I'm 3/4th's Irish and DH is 1/2 so I thought it might be cool to give her an Irish name.
All the ones that are spelled weird are Gaelic/Irish names. I'm 3/4th's Irish and DH is 1/2 so I thought it might be cool to give her an Irish name.
Kay-linn :)
so unusual but not weird...hum...I see what you mean about being profiled before someone meets you, but it's still a beautiful name!
so unusual but not weird...hum...I see what you mean about being profiled before someone meets you, but it's still a beautiful name!
I just want something not too common and not too unusual or ethnic sounding. Sorry if that came out wrong but I always get racially profiled before people meet me and its annoying. How do you pronounce Kahlan just out of curiosity? Is it like Ky-lan or Ca-lane or etc...?
I still prefer Navy to the rest of these. The only other one that I can even pronounce and spell is Luxe. Are these cultural names? I love your name...Malia. It's really beautiful.
I like Kayla too because my daughter's name is Kahlan...so I'm a bit biased, lol.
Hmm...do you have a cultural preference? such as Irish, Italian...etc? or do you just want something unique? If I had had another daughter her name would've been Leah or Lyah (lee-uh or lie-uh) and my daughter's name was either going to be Kahlan (which we obviously chose) or Daenerys (day-near-iss).
Hmm...do you have a cultural preference? such as Irish, Italian...etc? or do you just want something unique? If I had had another daughter her name would've been Leah or Lyah (lee-uh or lie-uh) and my daughter's name was either going to be Kahlan (which we obviously chose) or Daenerys (day-near-iss).
He says it will take him a while to get over it but that he's glad he found out now before she was actually born so that we can have time to either adjust to the fact or not. Kaya is too close to Kada which is his niece's name and Ciara is too common for me. Ugh. I hate naming babies.
I like Kaya, prefer kayla more.
What about Kaya (kai-uh) or Ciara? I still like Navy...is he dead set against it now?
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