random not pregnancy

[mwinder]

So I have a 2 and a half year old dauggter and a 6 mo old lab and 20 weeks pregnant so im giving the dog away tomorrow I know my daughter will be sad any advice to help her through it

[specialmom]

I admire your ability to do hard things and to admit when something isn't working.  That shows great maturity in my opinion.  

I'm sure it will be hard to do but in the long run, best for everyone (including doggie).  

Again, try not to make it a dramatic event.  I wouldn't say anything when the dog is leaving but explain when and if she asks where the dog is.  Really, such sweet innocence of a 2 year old works to your advantage in this situation.  Take care dear.  It might be a sad day for you tomorrow.  hugs

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

So really your pregnancy has nothing to do with getting rid of the dog. It's because you put no thought into how big a lab would get and that a puppy requires training to know not to jump. So yes I agree the dog needs to go to someone else who understands that a dog isnt just a cute cuddly thing that listens automatically.

[mwinder]

Well for the people quick to judge we live in a 2 bedroom apt he already weighs 40 or 45 pounds and has a lot more to grow no room to run or play and the people who he is going to live with is long time family friends who love animals will take him camping swimming they have a house a fenced in back yard and he will be hapoier im sure its not ideal but sometimes things have to be done not to mention how hyper he is and jumps on me and my daughter

[mwinder]

Well for the people quick to judge we live in a 2 bedroom apt he already weighs 40 or 45 pounds and has a lot more to grow no room to run or play and the people who he is going to live with is long time family friends who love animals will take him camping swimming they have a house a fenced in back yard and he will be hapoier im sure its not ideal but sometimes things have to be done not to mention how hyper he is and jumps on me and my daughter

[showard022]

I don't know with mine. He still cries because my mom's cat died and went to heaven. He says he misses him all the time. He's 4 though. I mean his cat would not be put to sleep I would find him a good home so it's different but he love the cat. He even cried when we went on vacation and called up my brother on law who was watching the house to check on the cat. He made him send a video. I might be stuck with the cat I'm just worried how it will work with the baby.

[specialmom]

I really don't think toddlers will be as traumatized as you think.  I've been through this.  I made a special effort to keep my own feelings and grief in check in front of my kids and just kept us busy.  Kids are VERY resilient when little.  As they get older and their emotions mature and deepen, they understand more the permanent part of an animal leaving the home for good through death or what have you.  But when they are little . . .   they don't get it as much.  Sure, I can MAKE them get it by my own sorrowful reaction.  But instead, I shielded them.  When they got older, I couldn't do that anymore.   When they are tiny, you can.  

[showard022]

Asthma*

[showard022]

My son is going to be tramatized.

[showard022]

I'm in the same boat.  I'm horribly allergic to my cat and he is irritating my azthma. Pluss he is constantly destroying things and making messes. Also I wake up constantly with a 30 lb cat on my stomach and I'm so afraid he is going to jump or lay on the baby.

[specialmom]

Hi.  Well, this is when you talk about what's best for the dog.  Doggie likes to run and have space and we can't keep up with it.  You found a place where doggie will be happy.  BUT, at her age, you don't need to say too much. Don't make it dramatic.  Our dog passed away when my boys were 3 and 2.  They asked where the dog was and I said heaven and they were like 'okay' and we moved on.  Now, when they were older, last year, we lost our dog and they were utterly heartbroken.  It was a difference and the age so thankfully, your daughter isn't too old and this will probably be much harder on you than her.  Hang in there.  This is a really hard thing to do.  hugs

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

And as far as your daughter goes there is nothing to make it easier. My son notices instantly if our dogs are not around even if they are just at the groomers

[Mommy_Daddy_2]

Why are you giving the dog away? I have a three year old, 3 dogs and a cat and I'm 29 weeks preggo. Its very possible to handle it all. So unless it's a medical reason I'm not sure why you would get rid of the dog

[Missleah1991]

Keep the dog, it's not it's fault your pregnant. Unless it's a threat to your child or baby....