vent and support..

[jocelynn_mommy812]

My boyfriend of almost 4 years told me yesterday he wants to split up he is unhappy I am 37 weeks pregnant, and am no linger working. he gets paid every Friday and makes great checks he took me off of our joint account is refusing to give me any money, I don't like asking to borrow money but my parents insist they will help me with some, we are still both staying in our apartment and only have one car and this morning he asked me to take Jim to work I didn't want to but if he loosed his job how will my daughter be supported? Until I fo back from maternity leave.. so I took him and I told him I need gas money since I took him to work and picked him up all week he refuses I literally have NO money and an empty gas tank:( I told him if he wants to be a jerk( used stronger language) than I can be an even bigger "jerk" and not allow him in the room when I am giving birth or when she is born.. he will have to wait to see her, am I being too strong? I just don't think its right that I am.not working have no money and he isn't helping with anything not to mention that he hasn't bought our daughter one thing I have bought her clothes and blankets but him nothing everything I have family bought like my parents his sister my aunt so I don't know why he is complaining i asked him for money also to get her last minute stuff and he refuses neither me or her have our hospital bags ready and I feel as if I'm going to go into labor any day now:( I'm so heart broken and upset!

[hodgeemum]

You do everything u feel is best for you and your baby =) He is going to regret losing you because you are an amazing strong woman. Go you! Don't let him in the delivery room, its your choice who is in there, not his. Keep your chin up luv!

[babymama1985]

Hunny I have an idea of what you're going through. My situation is a little different but I am a single mom to be. 26 weeks pregnant. The father of my child cheated on me and then lied to me for two months after that about still seeing her and i'm pretty sure she is living with him now while about 3the weeks ago I get the threat that he ia going to take me to court and get the baby all because I said at first he needs to come see the baby at my house for awhile so he can get to know the baby and we can work out his routine before we begin any visits away from me and I don't want any overnights. Mostly because I know what is best for my son while he couldn't care less and is going out and having a great time with his new gf and proving what a pos he really is. So yeah the past 2 months have been hell.on.earth but I have been getting counseling and I have a few great friends and parents who are helping me so much. They are the best. Idk where I would be without them. Sweetie let your parents help you. It doesn't make you weak...it makes you human. And think of it like this....if your daughter was in this predicament and she needed your help you wouldn't hesitate to help her...just like your parents want to help you...they love you. Its not for forever. And like the other girls said do not do anything for him. Do not let him in the delivery room. It is a privilege. Plus you want someone who is going to support u and cheer u on not some selfish ***** who is going to make the whole thing about him. He made his bed now let him lie in it. Idk where you live but before you file for child support find out what your states custody laws are. Here in Florida they are 2and separate issues but with one will.come the other not long after. So now im stuck in the way that idk what im gonna.do.about insurance becuz if ibtrybto getvthe baby in Medicaid they will go after him.to provide insurance and then he will make a petition.for a parenting plan. That's what they call it now. So maybe u can get a free consultation with a lawyer if he doesn't want to comply with what u want. And if he doesn't help financially. Tho like me I am sure that is the least of your concerns at this time...I know its so cliche to say this but everything happens for a reason. Its the waiting and the hurt that comes along the way that isbthe hard part. You can do this tho. But u must stand firm. I am not letting my bd in the delivery room nor at the hospital. He has ruined enough of my pregnancy. He wont be ruining my first couple days with my son. Maybe thats wrong but ya know what he deserves to hurt a little too tho that would mean caring. And who knows if he does. But im gonna stand strong for my son. He is my number one priority. I love him so much already. U will be a great mom. He is the one missing out but unfortunately he prob doesn't see it like that. Maybe like my ex its a trapped thing tho he wanted it.  Stay strong hun. You will do great.

[jocelynn_mommy812]

I officially moved out, and will be a single mommy I'm so sad hurt and confused but I have to be strong for my baby girl she will be here soon!(:

[jocelynn_mommy812]

Oh no his sisters will.be good to her, as long as they wanna be in her life they will be(:

[stacey10]

you go girl, and you make sure you let his family see the baby as well, never let them not, as that is one thing that he will never be able to say about you either :)

[jocelynn_mommy812]

My daughter will always be prioriity over him, he isn't happy about me telling him I don want him in the delivery room! He keeps suggesting why should he give me money so I told him screw you than I don't need your money but some time soon yoh will be calling me and needing a ride or missing me, and I told him he is the one loosing out on spending every day and night with his daughter not me she will be with ne at all times, and when he does get visitation it will be in the presense of someone else, I don't want to be ugly with my child and use her as leverage or anything but he is a jerk seriously and I already know once the baby is born he will want us back home bit I'm not going to give him that satisfication.. he will have a lot of regrets in the end, and his family is furious they all said he better not call them asking for rides since he wants to be an a** I'm glad they are on ny side, it makes this a little easier. Thanks for all of ur support, I think my dad is gonna hurt him soon though because ne and ny daughter aside from my mom and siblings mean the world to my dad.. so he better watch himself, he has some nerve to tell ne I don't do anything when I just finished my semester of college and I worked ny whole pregnancy,well almost, and to top it off our apartment is always clean and I always make dinner. He isn't guilt tripping me on this one!

[mommie_4_three]

Stacy is write, please don't let him in the room. Let him suffer. Don't let him bring you down, show him that u are better than that, and girl if he don't wanna help u with the things u need for your daughter take it from him. Go out and see if you could get him for child support. Keep your head held high and don't stress on him. I know that will be hard after 4 years but promise me you'll keep that precious baby first....good luck with everything. Sent with love.

[stacey10]

sorry about the sp mistakes, fumming while writing this !!

[stacey10]

I'm sorry but omg what an a rse  hole!! you need to start thinking about yourself... DO NOT let him use you like this, no matter how hard it may seem, your setting yourself up to be treated this way, dont take him anywhere in your car, I cant believe the douche bag wont even give you petrol for running his sorry a rse around, tough love is needed here, his problem if he looses his job, not yours, he;s already made the split emotionally, now you need to, he should not be in the delivery room with you, thats a priviledge, not a right, the way hes treating you, there is no way I would let him near me when your at your most vanurable, you will need support in the delivery room, h''s not supporting you now when you need it, I also cant believe that the bank has allowed him to take his name off the acc without your permission, if its a joint one, I would have thought that he would nhave needed your permission.... I'm sorry if I'm being harsh, but honey this is stress you dont need right now, I would take the help from your parents and get away from him, he's being selfish to the max, what kind of man trys to end a relationship 3 weeks from when his baby is due, sure he maybe freaking out a little about his new responsibilities that are comming his way, but come on!!  not someone you should allow the pleasure of watching/helping you give birth thats for sure, concentrate on you and your bub and make him realise what hes lost, be strong  and walk away with pride and the dignity that hes not giving you !! your worth it and deserve wat more that this ::)

[momabear86]

im so sorry to hear your in this situation. explain to him its not you hes hurting but his baby! explain that if he wants to be an a** then you can wait till the baby is born and will take him for everypenny then. its best to try and sort it by happier means but it sounds like he wont. accept the help from family and friends, honestly my parents have been amazing but there happy to do it and maybe even move in with them to save money that way

[jocelynn_mommy812]

And BTW the car is mine under my name..