due tmw w alot on my mind!!

[cmm20]

So im due tmw nd i have alot on my mind.... Wen i was 5-6 months preggo... My sons father has a drug problem nd during this relapse.. he cheated on me w his ex who he also has a kid w... Now she claims the baby is his nd about a week ago she sed shes almost 4 months so idk exactly... i have no doubt she did this on purpose cuz ive been w him for 3 years nd thts all shes ever tried to du is make our relationship hard. i told him if its his hes taking her to court cuz ive had it w her... He agreed nd is trying to keep us together as a family but wut would someone else du in this situation? Stay or walk away? any help is appreciated!

[cmm20]

Bump.

[cmm20]

I sure hope ur rite. his parents jus make it harder to b w him tho... Theyre afraid of his ex taking away their grandson if they dnt help her. Theyve cleaned her car they even allow her to live w them! Like she needs to go back to her family nd stop sponging off his. This is y i have a distant relationship w his parents... They put him in positions to fail. Id feel like my parents were choosing her over their own son! If it was me but thankfully its not. If i learned anything from his parents its tht no bword will b coming before my son. Especially one thts trying to get him to eff up. No matter my sons circumstances tht will never happen.

[Bfranz537]

im a former addict. When i was in my teens and 20 maybe 21 i was on pills bad. So i know the damage that it can cause first hand. If you love him and you feel he is seriously trying then dont just walk away from him.. Its hard to get clean and stay clean but its even harder when everyone you love turns their back on you. Granted sometimes doing things to prove a point or for him to open his eyes are good but make sure your going to do more good then bad by walking out for a short time.  Whose to say that if you walk out now while he is clean and is getting help, that he isnt going to lose it and hit rock bottom again then what kind of daddy can he be? This is the father of your child, us woman want support and understanding from our childs father through out our pregnancy and in some situations we need to be supportive and understanding with them. so my advice would be to support him and push him to be a better man father and Husband/ Boyfriend to your little family.. I know that if it wasnt for my family and boyfriend being so supportive and pushing me to be mother and woman i am today i dont think i would have made it this far in life. I know things can be hard and really trying at times but i swear in the end if everything does work out and he does get and stay clean it will be sooooo worth it.

[vro1991]

There is no easy answer when it comes to addiction. It's like an eating disorder. You have to want to quit and have some sort of motivation. There are people that have been sober for 30 years that will tell you that every day is still a fight to stay clean.

[cmm20]

Ill keep tht in mind. I jus wish there was an easy answer

[vro1991]

Addiction is a very hard thing, i have seen it ruin a family first hand, and i have seen that same person at the very bottom get himself back together. It took him almost loosing his family to step away and now my uncle has been clean for a lil over a year. If you are willing to try and wprk it out then do so. At the same time it may do him some good if you take the baby and walk away until he can prove himself to you all.

[cmm20]

Pills... Wen he starts those he doesnt stop there. Nd it can take a very long time to get him clean again.

[rebecca_sasser]

Not to sound like a b.... but i would walk away because he shoulda never let hisself get to that point and how did he end up where she was at in the fisrt place i call bs if he done it once theres no telling how many times hes really done it........u or the baby dont need that in yalls life......i hope nothing but the best for u and the baby and trust me when i say this u will never be able to trust him again and thats gonna cost fights and the baby def dont need to be around that......

[babynumber3in2013]

Not that it really matters but what is his addiction? I'm also dealing with an addict husband who is clean but its still an uphill battle daily!

[cmm20]

Ive told some of my family nd they jus tell me its my decision

[cmm20]

He is currently seeking help thru counciling nd a pyschologist. Nd its just a nightmare. I love him but im not sure if it could work now. Im very insecure now. Hes trying but some days for me r harder than others

[Leximama93]

I would for sure walk away and take his butt to court! You and baby would be better off without all that.

[vro1991]

If he was messed up on drugs but now stays clean i would stay. But if she is using drugs i would turn her in and get custody. If he relapses again though, i would walk away.