suicide?!?!

[crazycurious11]

Okay I know I'm going to get a lot of negative comments on this but I need help and this just hit me yesterday so I haven't had time to seek professional help. So I was with my boyfriend for 3 years, I'm crazy obsessed with him till this day and he is with me we love each other soooooo much but we had broken up for a few months and I moved on and he moved on but we ended up having sex and he finished inside me (we were not together) and he did something that made me really upset so I had sex with a friend a week later and he finished inside me as well (he says he didn't and wants no part) so a month later I find out I'm pregnant and me and the guy I love got back together. He doesn't know what I did though and I never thought about it until now, were getting married in a few days and I was so excited we love this baby but yesterday he called me crying that he had a fight with his mom  and that she asked for a DNA test and that's when it finally hit me how stupid and such a **** that I was :'( I been going CRAZYY literally since yesterday I want to kill myself thought about hurting my baby but I just can't I'm seriously going crazy I've been laying in my bed kicking and screaming and praying for the past 5 hours. I don't want to choose between my babys life, mine or my relationship with the love of my life. Losing any of those would kill me!! I'm 10 weeks pregnant and I'm 18 years old Im getting married but now not looking forward to having this baby because it might not be his!! Idk what to do!! I'm so lost, confused, deppressed, crazy!! Please I need advice.......judge me if you must but I really dont need it........

[smiley_one]

Don't do anything drastic. If your fiance loves you and this baby so much and you do anything to harm the baby, he will more than likely leave you for killing the baby. Even though there is chance the baby may not be his, if you just up and get rid of the baby and not tell him, he will most likely leave you. And like you said earlier you don't want to lose him or the baby. Just tell him the truth, when the baby is born, do a DNA test. If the baby isn't his and if you decide you don't want to keep the life you helped create, then contact the biological father and see if he wants his child. If not, look into an adoption agency. Honestly, if you aren't honest with him about this, it WILL cause problems later on down the road and you will feel worse about yourself. I promise you, once you see that little baby everything will change. If your fiance loves you and the baby as much as you say he does, then it won't matter if the baby is his or not. He will love the baby as his own. Why would you want to take a chance at killing a baby that could possibly belong to your fiance? I'm sorry if I sound rude, or if I upset you, I really don't mean to, but don't harm the baby. Don't take that chance. Talk with your man, let him know, let him read the original post if you have to, but please don't take a chance at harming your baby knowing there is a chance that it could belong to your fiance.

[tink1890]

I was going through soome rough times with my bf as well i never told him that when we were on a break last year around august but still wanted to be together that i had sex with another man.  I never told him but he found out and he was furious i was worried i was going to lose the baby.  Lesson learned though honesty goes a long way if you tell him now rather than later he might not even want to stick around to see if the baby is his or not telling him now will let him know that ur truly sorry for ur mistake and that u want to be married and have this baby yes ur wedding might be post poned until the baby is born or until he can get over the fact that the baby isnt his and that he will stick by u whether or not the babys his.   Just please tell him.

[crazycurious11]

I ovulated the 9th that's the day I had sex with the other guy and I had sex with my boyfriend the 3rd........... :'( I might look into abortion pills then

[kaalaharvey]

I looked it up and it said the conception was from 3.4.12 to 3.12.12 so if u know when u ovulated that might help.

[jenamariem24]

You're 18, an adult...u need to tell this guy the truth. He has a right to know the baby may not be his. I am not judging u at all, but I do think u need to get help. It sounds like all u care about is if he leaves u. Grow up, tell him the truth, and deal with the outcome. Be a strong woman! You also mentioned that u were obsessed with him and u wana kill urself and hurt ur baby, and u don't wana lose ur fiance. That doesn't sound like an entirely healthy relationship. If u are marrying this man u have to be honest with him. Good luck, and please talk to someone and don't hurt urself or the baby. No matter wat, that baby is still half u...cherish it.

[smiley_one]

Write a letter. I find it easier to tell others things when I write them down.