uninterested family

[mamabear2015]

I'm 24, married, and having our first baby. Also, this is the first grandchild. I'm 33 weeks pregnant and none of my family is interested or excited about the baby. My mom even called me fat and makes fun of me behind my back to other family members. None of them have even looked at my baby registry either. I feel disappointed that no one shows that they care at all that there will be a new addition to the family. And my twin sister calls me just to ask how much more I weigh than her. I feel insulted. Does anybody else have a family like mine? How should I react?

[Baby_girl09]

I'm so sorry your going this. That's just pure mean. I hope they come around. It's hard being pregnant & not have any support from your own immediate family. You should talk to them about how your feel & let them decide, you can't force them to be be nice. Do you have friends you can lean on? I hope you do. Try to focus on yourself, husband & your baby. I hope everything goes well with you.

[ashrefra]

Screw um, you don't need that. You're starting your own family you don't need them. I cut people like that out of my life because they're a waste of energy,  no offense. You're pregnant not fat, and I'm excited for you (: all you need is your man and little bean! Best of luck to you momma, stick up for yourself and do what you feel is best.

[mamabear2015]

Thank you :)

my husband's family lives out of state but at least they call every once in a while. They are the only ones who have said they will try to make it for the birth or at least visit as soon as they can. So I am very appreciative of his family. My husband is also supportive and very excited and loving. I'm thankful for his support too.

[RockRose]

How painful.  

Is your husband's family excited,  or are your friends excited?  I would go with that and drift away from your family.  

Sometimes,  this is just information that's useful.   For some reason they aren't interested in your pregnancy and everyone in your family is in competition for who is the thinnest.  

I think in your place,  I would compose an email to ONE person,  your mom.  "I'm really excited about this baby and I know everyone else is happy for us,  but it seems like I get a lot of  feedback from family  in comments about my weight because I'm pregnant.  I know it seems funny to laugh at me because I'm heavier,  but I really need and want your support.  Can you help out with this?  Love you so much - and so looking forward to you being my baby's grandma!!"

My family is hypersensitive about weight,  and I was  always  stick thin so I didn't get any backlash. See if you can draw your mom out.  

If not,  gravitate to those who are excited about the baby.