selfish boyfriend

[pregnant___]

My babys father is verbally abusive to me, makes fun of me for crying (I'm 32 weeks and obviously emotional) he refuses to help move the guest bedroom furniture out of the nursery, so all the babys furniture and gifts from the shower remain in bags and boxes, calls me a ****, tells me I got pregnant on purpose, my job is worthless (I'm a social worker), to do something productive with my life, refuses to sleep in the same bed with me because I snore (side effect of my pregnancy) calls me selfish, has damaged my property (thrown my drawers out of windows) doesn't help out with any household chores, etc, etc, etc. I want to make it work for the baby but can't take his temper and yelling anymore. Should I try therapy with him before moving out or should I get out while I can?.

[NatFox]

No one can make you decide what to do.... I just want to share what i feelt when i was a child.. My parents had a very bad relationship and i prayed every night my mum would leave dad...but she never did... When i became an adult i had to have years of therapy to manage to keep my relationship  and try to understand my mother.....
If you are in a bad relationship it is your choice but you do need to think how it affect you children .... Remember...there is always choice.... Sometimes we just need to make a hard decision. Good luck.

[rosey117]

As a social worker you know the signs of abuse and what it can do. I am not passing judgment but you need to GET OUT. This relationship is unhealthy for you and the baby. He is emotionally and verbally abusive the physically abuse is around the corner after he takes your self-esteem. Please get out for the sake of your child. your baby can hear what's going on inside your stomach

[arlandonbloom]

Get out ASAP. I know you can't really believe it when people say I know how you feel but I know how you feel. I was in a relationship similar to that, he mentally abused me and I finally realized that I had had enough and got out. As hard as it will be since he is the father of your baby you need to think of what is best for you and your child. You both are precious and no one should go through that. No one!! Good luck to you and hopefully you make the right decision for you and baby.

[dragondreamer]

oh hon I hate to see you in a relationship with who seems to be a totally *******. Your better off without him, coz if he treats you like that, how is he going to treat your baby when it grows up?  There is alot better guys out there, that also want children, and a good woman to boot!

[mommys_boy23]

When your unable to be all you can be, be your best you for your child because of the stress or damage he or anyone else does to you, then its time to let go. Your child should be #1, maybe give him some space and time to grow up, if not then you know you nd baby are both better off. Anyone can tell you to leave, he's horrible, you deserve better blah blah, but until you honestly feel that your better off, until you figure out what is best, it will just be a endless cycle of breaking up nd making up. So just look at the big picture, see how you really feel nd make the wisest decision you feel you can make (:

[Bub02]

Sweet heart you deserve so much beta. Men can be jerks but then there are men that are jerks. Yrs sounds immature and a complete arse. Mines no better at the best of times trust me but he didn't blame me for getting pregnant and doesn't destroy property. That's childish, and how's he meant to be a role model? Get out, and kick him to the curb. Xx

[am623]

I am really sorry to hear that, but I believe u need to get out. Your baby is your number one priority and needs you. Being around all that abuse is not goodffor you or your baby. My sister had t going on exactly like you and is still w him. I have never seen such an unhappy couple as them. They are always going at it around just pretty much anybody....good luck xxxx

[babyonboard24]

Re read what you just posted..do you think you deserve to be in that kinda relationship? no one does he sounds horrible..would you want someone you loved to be treated so bad,if not why allow yourself to be..

[shinynicole333]

My boyfriend is very simular. When we first found out I was pregnant he left me and started seeing another girl. He said i was trying to trap him. We've been together 5 yrs.. He eventually came back. Goes from excited about the baby to being terrified. I'm 38 weeks now.  I to hope the baby makes him change.

[jluv22]

Get out sweetheart. Think about you nd ur baby that's all that matters. Im sure you want a complete family but something solid even if it is just 2too of you is better