should the father be in the delivery room?

[Aprilmomma]

I'm due april 25th so I have some time to decide but me and the father aren't together. He plans to be involved in my sons life but honestly he has made it difficult for me every step of the way. I'm afraid he would make giving birth difficult and not be supportive like I need him to be. But he does want to be there.

I'm not even sure how comfortable I am with him anymore. So should I let him be there? Or is it wrong to not let him even though it's his child too ?

[monie2]

I think you should have him there put everything aside an think about that bonding moment with the baby. Just kick him out afterwards ahah

[wyattsmom2015]

You are the one that has the choice. Birth is about the mom not the dad, he can't give birth and apparently he did his part already. If you want him there then he should be but if not then he can wait till you are ready to let him at the hospital. Good luck.

[baybay215]

You can try to let him in and if he isn't helping then the nurses/security will make him get out if you say.  

It wouldn't be wrong for you to say no.
It is your body, your medical procedure, therefore no one other than you and medical staff has a true right to be in there.  However, I would allow him in after the baby was born seeing as your relationship seems civil.

[mandamay919]

I didn't let the father in the room when I gave birth bc weren't together or getting along and I don't regret it I was glad I made the decision I did.

[Lucy1813]

Yes he should be in there. He is the dad of you guys are together or not so there is no reason he should have to miss his child's birth unless he chooses to.

[Kelsn]

I am in the same exact position and he is not allowed to be there when she is born. My mom and my sister are taking his place

[roflbecca]

You can always have him there and if he starts being a **** tell him to leave. If he doesn't the doctors and security will escort him out. They can even escort him out of the whole babyward if you'd like

[Kailynns_Mommy_2015]

I would kinda see if things buff out a little over the next month or two & if so...then decide 100%! It's nice bc there are a few diff options like you can let him in the room (if you r comfortable but maybe at a distance so each of u have your space,. then again, the actual birth itself may bring u two closer/
together... you could have a negative in with you both to be there as moral n physical support for u so the father isn't putting stress on you,  he could
wait until right after u deliver to enter , or you two
could go into it as eachother friends/support
system. Each relationship is different but honestly I
think you'll know in your heart what to do when that
time comes! You are the one giving birth & that
baby & yourself should come 1st in my opinion! Good luck with everything too BTW!

[madianne92]

That's tough. I personally wouldn't let him in for the actual birth itself. I'd let him come in right afterwards. But that's something very personal and if he's not part of your life why would he want to be in there anyway? Your body is doing all the work and he isn't there to support you. He just wants to see the baby (much like people who come to visit you while you're in the hospital).

[Elixy128]

I say let him be there so he can **** u off n distract you when you give birth you have to get angry or lose your mind it will bring your pressure where it needs too and you'll have control of your body but bring your mom or sis if you can for support

[alisonk170]

You need to do whats right for you. You are the one giving birth. He can wait outside and come in as soon as you are ready