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if you were in an abusive relationship and your pregnant with his son. and been in it for three years now. would you try to make a family for your son bc you want your son to have his mom and dad together. or leave with your son and make it on your own.
If he's abusive I would've left a long time ago but for your child's sake leave. Do you want your son growing up around that?
You've got to think about the well being of your precious child.if he's abusive to you who's to say he wouldnt be abusive to your baby.then again he might wouldn't be.its a hard call to make but I personally wouldn't want my child in that type of environment bc I wouldn't want him or her growing up thinking it is okay to be abusive towards people.good luck and God bless!❤
I am sure it is, darling. But what if one day the anger was taken out on your son. Or it went to far and your son was left with out a mother? It's safer for you and your baby boy if you leave. There are places that can help you leave and such. Good luck.
Yes it is difficult. But now you need to think of your baby. Do you want him to be raised in a situation like this or do you want the best for him. Let that give you the strength to make the right choice.
You have to leave. My mom was a single mom and she had an abusive bf when I was 5-6 I was scared to death everytime they fight and he would hurt me too but my mom protected me from him. She finally left him. My mom told me to never let any guy lay a hand on u. No matter how much u love him. If you want ur baby to be safe I suggest you leave now.
I know what your going through but its up to you and only if you want to dwal with someone that treats you like that if he hasnt changed by now he never will .... do.you want your son to grow up seeing how his dad treats his mom like that
I used to be. I wasn't pregnant tho. We were together 4 years then he got abusive and I literally had enough (I was young and scared for the longest time) I punched him in the face and busted his lip and told him how it is and left his *** and never looked back. He harassed me and stocked me for bout a year after that and I ended up moving a couple times. He finally gave up or never found out where I lived but it finally ended! It was rough ya but I had to do what I needed to do cuz the all the bruises and pain he caused me wasn't worth it and one day I woke up and realized I didn't deserve it! I have faith in you :)
I was in one with my sons father for 5 1/2yr before i got pg he promised me it wud change but it olny got worse at the time we lived in texas were i now live. When i was four months i moved with him to Utah were again he promised me but he never changed i stayed with him till my son was a year nd a half couldnt ake it anymore so i told him i wanted to visit my family in tx when i got here i told him i wasnt going bk. I was gone for 3mon nd for some odd reason i thought he changed he wanted to take my son for a month sore to god he would bring him bk that was in 2011 i havent seen or talked to my son in 3 yrs so please take my advice leave now and dont look back its for ur and ur sons own good I PROMISE YOU WILL NOT REGREAT IT.
They have groups you can contact that'll help you leave. No one wants you in this kind of situation. No one. Not even people who have no clue you exist. Please, think of your baby boy
The year we were together with my son i would abuse me he did it a few times in front of my son nd now i find out from his family that lives close by that my son doesn't.talk yey he will b five in july. I told my mom about it she says it bc he was tramatized from when his dad would put his hands on me and now im 5mon.pg and promised myswlf i would never iny lif let that happen again
Ok ppl may not like me for saying this but as a women there's something about that man keeping you there or you would have left longtime ago Iif your being abused do ssomething about it pregnant or not don't allow no man cause that's all he is be strong enough to leave or strong enough to hold it together and put that abusive man in his place
There's actually a forum for abuse on medhelp. Not sure how active it is. PLEASE BE CAREFUL! I grew up abused and was in a highly abusive relationship for years. I gained PTSD from it. That's all I will say. I hate talking about my disorder. :/ You deserve safety AND love. :) good luck, mama.
I'm in your boat, love. I've been with the man who's given me the child in me for almost 6 years. In the first 4 he was my best friend - when my best friend killed himself, he was there. Every time I wanted to kill myself after, he stopped me. I owe him my life.
He doesn't abuse me physically very much, mostly emotionally. He's done a lot of things to me physically, and I think the worst part is I always fight back. I'll say things he doesn't like, and no matter what it is, if he gets too upset, he'll slap me as hard as he can and throw things and scream in my face, or spit in my face. Whenever he does, I scream back and ask him if he wants to see how it felt when he slapped me and he'll laugh, so I'll do it back. Whenever he adds things on, I do it back. The last time we fought was on Tuesday. He slapped me twice, the second time I almost fell and smashed the glass table beside us. He laughed and said "Seriously are you that weak?!" So I shoved him back and ended up fracturing my middle finger in two places.
Somehow I still love him, because we aren't always like that. He tries to make me apologize first for things he started, and sometimes I do. I want to leave and I have before. But I always end up going back and it always ends up being worse. I tell you all this because I don't want you to have to feel as helpless as I do. Leave while you can before you've gotten so far into it that you don't remember how.
He doesn't abuse me physically very much, mostly emotionally. He's done a lot of things to me physically, and I think the worst part is I always fight back. I'll say things he doesn't like, and no matter what it is, if he gets too upset, he'll slap me as hard as he can and throw things and scream in my face, or spit in my face. Whenever he does, I scream back and ask him if he wants to see how it felt when he slapped me and he'll laugh, so I'll do it back. Whenever he adds things on, I do it back. The last time we fought was on Tuesday. He slapped me twice, the second time I almost fell and smashed the glass table beside us. He laughed and said "Seriously are you that weak?!" So I shoved him back and ended up fracturing my middle finger in two places.
Somehow I still love him, because we aren't always like that. He tries to make me apologize first for things he started, and sometimes I do. I want to leave and I have before. But I always end up going back and it always ends up being worse. I tell you all this because I don't want you to have to feel as helpless as I do. Leave while you can before you've gotten so far into it that you don't remember how.
I have never been in an abusive relationship but i have seen one my mom as an example im now almost 21 and i have a trust issue and NEVER FORGETTEN what that guy had done to my mom and I.
Do whatever u have to to get away from him. Firstly u don't deserve it and since u are pregnant either he will become abusive to the child (not at first but normal kid tantrums can push any guys nerve) and/or ur son will grow up thinking its normal and ok to treat ppl like this possibly even u. U and ur child deserve to be safe and happy.
Hey girl. I know what you are going through better than anyone, I wont go into my x partner and mines history at all, to be honest I dont have the heart to be reminded, but here is a thought; look on it from a kids point of view as I am unfortunately an expert there too- when I was a kid my mum and dad sepperated, and my mum went on to date a guy. At first he used to only hit my mum, then he started emotionaly abusing both her and me. This went on for years, Then the **** started hitting me awel. I was so close to dieing by his hands once, he put myself in hospital 3 times in alland mum-ive lost count, my mum still stayed. horribly blunt, im sorry, but my point is it always starts small. It never ends small. That point when you really need to get out sometimes is too late, the damage watching your mum getting hurt by someone who is supposed to love her is something that is with you for life. It effects every aspect. Watching your mum get hurt is the same as watching your child being hurt, a helpless empty, and horrible feeling. If you don't leave for your sake, leave for your babys, I hope it pans out alright. Best of luck
Leave him. I know it will be hard but you won't regret that decision. When it's time, count to three and just do it.
I was in an abusive relationship and it took a while but I finally got out of there. I have NEVER regretted that decision. I'm now in a very happy, loving relationship and have never been happier.
My mum was in an abusive relationship with 5 kids. He wasn't just abusing her.. Sophie and Josh would be screaming in their high chairs in the dark, in the kitchen, hungry, and he wouldn't go to them or feed them. I was just a toddler when my mum noticed cigarette burns on the back of my legs (which of course, he denied). I think the final straw came when my sister and I was 4/5 and he slammed our heads down into the arm of the chair - which was wooden - for spilling soup over ourselves on accident. We were both left with bloody noses but he broke her nose, split her gum and messed up her teeth.
Don't think your guy won't do the same to your baby as he's doing to you. ANY kind of abuse is bad. Don't stand for it.
All five of us were left without a father but we all know it's for the best.
And if it's just verbal, still leave. That's JUST as bad.
I wish you all the best. Do what's best for you and your baby.
I was in an abusive relationship and it took a while but I finally got out of there. I have NEVER regretted that decision. I'm now in a very happy, loving relationship and have never been happier.
My mum was in an abusive relationship with 5 kids. He wasn't just abusing her.. Sophie and Josh would be screaming in their high chairs in the dark, in the kitchen, hungry, and he wouldn't go to them or feed them. I was just a toddler when my mum noticed cigarette burns on the back of my legs (which of course, he denied). I think the final straw came when my sister and I was 4/5 and he slammed our heads down into the arm of the chair - which was wooden - for spilling soup over ourselves on accident. We were both left with bloody noses but he broke her nose, split her gum and messed up her teeth.
Don't think your guy won't do the same to your baby as he's doing to you. ANY kind of abuse is bad. Don't stand for it.
All five of us were left without a father but we all know it's for the best.
And if it's just verbal, still leave. That's JUST as bad.
I wish you all the best. Do what's best for you and your baby.
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