Uuuhh.. Noooooo. Not a wise idea...
I wouldnt be so quick to write off the idea. I was in a similar situation and when I saw the message asking to meet up with him on his phone I agreed. At the end of the day, he could meet her in secret which might have been more exciting rather than with my full knowledge. If he had wanted to be with her he coudl leave me and I think that by meeting her, returning to me makes it clear that he is done with her and he said to me that he had no feelings for her anymore. That said, he wont be meeting her again.
We are both doctors so she might not have realised as we work shifts that are always changing and coming home late is part and parcel of the ER.
If you agree to let them meet, go along also. Let her see you and meet you also as his wife and let him tell her in front of you that he is going to make his marriage work, but in front of you. There is absolutely no reason for them to ever be alone anywhere again!
I see your point but dont really agree as I have decided to trust him and forgive him.
I am not his keeper and am not interested in meeting her and also he can say that he is going to make his marriage work but then decide to meet up with her a second time if he still has things he wants to say/she wants to say. What will be will be, and if he hadnt wanted to stay with me/with her he wouldnt have.
If he meets her and something happens then he is not really committed to her and why would she want to stay with him, end up with kids etc?
May be I am too naive
I don't think there would be anything left to discuss and there are other ways to communicate other than meeting up. If he is truly commited to you then there is no need to see or talk to the other woman any longer. What's done is done.
Why does he need to clear things up with her if he chose you? She shouldn't even be on his mind, all the focus should be on you and what makes you happy. I hate to say this but I can't help but wonder what his motives truly are. What if they meet up and the sparks start to fly again? Are you willing to take that chance?