Can I get some advice? Please? :(

[Snow17]

I am a 17 year old, and ive been with my boyfriend for about 3 and 1/2 years.
When we first started dating everything was fine, we were both very happy. ( for the first couple of years... ) And then I had started the depo shot for birth control. This turned me into a complete " B*tch " and I agree with this. It has changed the way I rationally think about problems and situations,  and sometimes the stupidest things will tick me off. Example, if he goes over to hang out with his friends ill get this jealous / anger feeling like he does not want to spend time with me. I do not know why I get this feeling :( I really do not mind him going to hang out with his friends, and we spend time together usually on the weekends. The main point is though I have the problem of little things Ticking me off or making me jealous, and then me saying what ever comes to mind which usually is not good, and is very childish and I end up regretting every word that comes out of my mouth. I believe the way I "handle" my anger is ruining our relationship, and I do not want it to be ruined because of something I do not know how to properly control. I love him very much :( We have plans to get married after we graduate ( which is with in the next year ) and have a family. I do not want my anger to ruin all of this. Please, can you give me some tips on how to control my anger and jealousy? :( Thank you.

[RainLover71]

It will pass,things will get better and you will be less moody and your life will be a happy one as you have a bright future ahead of you.Don,t worry there are pleny of moody women out there who haven,t had the shot and they are not very plesant to be around.The general consensus of opinion appears to be the shot you had however you should look forward to better times ahead and if your man loves you he will except your mood swings until such time as they subside.

[Snow17]

Thank you to all those who have responded, ive had time to think about stuff that i really want and you are right i dont want to jump straight directly into marriage, I do want to make sure its what i want because i dont belive in divorces ( its just a think I belive in.. ) and i want this to last. Think i might just take it slow and everything and definatly get off this stupid shot, I really appreciate having people like you guys to talk things like this with :) My mother really is not around nor my father so I thank you all for helping.

[brice1967]

I'd also suggest that the shot is causing this/these side effects and I think you are on the right track talking with your doctor about switching.  Very mature decision.

Now, do not take offense to this but, at 17 years of age, why are you talking marriage?  You've got your whole life in front of you.  If this guy is wonderful now, take a couple of years and see how wonderful things still are.  Get established in respective careers before trying to tie the knot.

Perhaps you both do seem a little too co-dependent.  It seems to me as if you've got this picture painted in your mind that the sun comes up because of this guy.... albeit a great picture and a nice feeling, I can assure you that the sun will come up at least for the next 200 years, with or without this guy.  If the relationship is strong enough, it can wait.  Too many people your age feel and act really mature, but the fact is you've both got a bit of growing to do.  (Again, I mean no disrespect.)  You never quit developing, and at the age of 17 you've barely even started.

If this relationship is meant to last, there is absolutely no harm in waiting.  While waiting, you can build a better and stronger relationship.  Marriage is not easy.  In fact, marriage is the hardest thing I've ever done alongside being a parent.  Both are giant jobs with bigger obligations.  Both take tremendous amounts of work and effort.  (I know a few couples that got married right out of high school....none of those couples are married today.)

[Londres70]

As a nurse, I am NOT a fan of Depo.  Definitely talk with your GYN about this and request recommendation for another BC.  You are NOT the first person/patient complain about this side effect of Depo.  It is convenient because you don't have to worry about a pill everyday, but.....if it is turning you into this "touchy angry person" it is NOT worth it.  

Change the BC and see what happens.  

I don't really know if "relying" on one another is a problem.  Take the Depo out this equation and then you can clearly see if there are other underlying problems.

[sweetpea03]

As Rockrose said, you are 17 and you have so much ahead of you to learn and experience. I would never recommend getting married right out of high school, as many of those relationships fail down the line. You have to take some time to grow and really learn about who you are and what you want in life. What I thought I really wanted in high school, is different then what I wanted after being in college. Those ideas change as we experience more and mature. It may be that you are one of the exceptions and this is the guy you could marry, but please don't rush into marriage right out of high school.

[Snow17]

Yes ive been told that the depo could be my main problem. When I was not on the depo ( and i took a break from it before ) Im fine, i go back to my normal, relaxed self. I will go talk to my planned parenthood doctor to see what could be the best method for me to be on. I just do not want something like this to ruin something that has started amazing, and still going good. We rely so much on each other ._. could that also be a problem?

[RockRose]

This sounds pretty clearly like the depo shot is causing you to have horrible mood swings.

On the other hand,  you're young and this might not be the guy for you.

In the meantime,  I would get on to some other reliable birth control - talk to your OB about your mood swings that have changed your personality - and there is still a chance you might be able to work things out.

17 is really too young to decide your life partner.  But please don't get pregnant trying to figure that out.