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hardest thing to do
this morning my husband found out that i was trying to figure out what to do about his out of control additude and behavior problems and he snapped and hard i convinced him to go with me to the hospital to see about some medication for it and he agreed and when we got there i asked the drs if there was any way to get him some help for it and i explained the situation and he started acting eraticly in front of the doctors the doctor has diagnosed him with a complete mental breakdown and sent him to a mental health facility did i do the right thing
went to a joint counciling session today to try and work out some of his issues and wow that medication they put him on he didnt flip out once on me and he kept saying that if anybody could help him thru this it was going to be me so so glad he isnt mad at me for doing this i think all of the additude he was throwing around was his way of asking for help because he wasnt strong enough to come out and ask for it
You did the right thing and He will thank you for it later. If the doc saw this and felt he needed help then you should feel vindicated. He may be angry or hurt at first but believe me in the end he will thank you. It is hard to see someone we love so upset and feel like we may be causing them personal hurt and maybe you are but just like shots hurt but make one better or surgery hurts but makes you well this too may hurt but in end is the best thing to do. Good for you!
Be strong... you did the right thing. He's lucky he has a loving wife that cares enough about him to have taken him to the hospital in the first place. Please don't feel guilty.
Different scenario/situation, but my wife had to drive me to the rehab (treatment-center) and basically drop me off at the front door, in order for me to get help with my addiction to prescription pain medication. She said it was an extremely difficult thing to do, and she felt guilty about it, but I couldn't have/wouldn't have done it without her.
The fact that she loves me enough to have done that, and battled through her own emotions, speaks volumes about her love for me... as it speaks to your love for your husband.
Chin up. You did the right thing.
Different scenario/situation, but my wife had to drive me to the rehab (treatment-center) and basically drop me off at the front door, in order for me to get help with my addiction to prescription pain medication. She said it was an extremely difficult thing to do, and she felt guilty about it, but I couldn't have/wouldn't have done it without her.
The fact that she loves me enough to have done that, and battled through her own emotions, speaks volumes about her love for me... as it speaks to your love for your husband.
Chin up. You did the right thing.
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Loving someone with mental illness can be done. You just have to have boundaries that keep you and your children safe as well as what is best for him medically. You can be there for him while he recovers but maybe not physically live together for a while. You aren't losing your love--------- you are possibly getting him back. But it will take a good while for that to happen. And think of it this way--------- if you are living together and he has a split from reality and harms you or the kids----------- he will not only be sick but he'll be in prison or an institution. I'm not trying to scare you------- but that is the reality. He is vulnerable to his mental illness, hence you are. You can be sure of nothing now and being safe is number one. Living together at this point would be something I advise against.
But I am not your doctor or his--------- so my opinion doesn't matter that much. You need to talk to the people in charge of him and really hear what they are saying. They may say some things that are hard to hear such as it is absolutely unsafe for you to live with him right now--------- but you need to hear it to make the best decision. You aren't losing him though--------- he will heal and then you can be together again. That would be my hope anyway.
But I am not your doctor or his--------- so my opinion doesn't matter that much. You need to talk to the people in charge of him and really hear what they are saying. They may say some things that are hard to hear such as it is absolutely unsafe for you to live with him right now--------- but you need to hear it to make the best decision. You aren't losing him though--------- he will heal and then you can be together again. That would be my hope anyway.
the drs have told him no less than a week he has not been promised to come home in a week and i will go from what the drs tell me is going on they said it could take up to a year even to get him better and have already said even when he leaves there to come home he will be on perminit out paitent treatment i will have to do the deciding at the end of the week if he stays or not but with the drs saying what they think is best i will not allow him to come home if the drs say he shouldnt he is alot worse than i relized i am keeping close contact with them he is not a well man but i still do love him and i will stay by his side and help him thru all of this and the drs agree just the idea of loosing my love pushs the buttons of insanity even further
COMMUNITY LEADER
Hi. Well, 5 days is not that long to straighten out severe emotional and mental issues. Keep that in mind. I would think about what options you have at the end of the week. Hopefully they will keep him for longer but I'm not sure if it is a good idea for him to come back home to you right now. He's violent. You have young children. Can you go somewhere else and allow him to take action to recover? Then you can revisit the relationship in the future when he is mentally stable (for real---------- not just 5 days post commitment.)
Make sure when you speak with the counselors that you address the children in the house and what has been going on. I don't think they'll recommend that you stay at this time for your safety and the kids.
This is really hard. I am hopeful that this is the first step of his acknowledging the mental health issues and getting help for them. But this takes time and you MUST be safe while he works on it. good luck
Make sure when you speak with the counselors that you address the children in the house and what has been going on. I don't think they'll recommend that you stay at this time for your safety and the kids.
This is really hard. I am hopeful that this is the first step of his acknowledging the mental health issues and getting help for them. But this takes time and you MUST be safe while he works on it. good luck
the drs at the clinic he is at say that as it stands right now he will be there for no lsee than a week and have put him on five diffrent medications as it is right now and they told me at the end of this week i will have to go up ther and talk to the counsilors to discuss further options of treatment ie if he stays there or if he is healthy enough to come home
I agree, you did the right thing. He may not see it now, but I feel pretty confident that once everything settles down and he starts acting "normal" again, he won't be upset and will hopefully thank you.
Yes, you did the right thing. Now he is where he can receive the help he needs. I think you showed him just how much you do care and when he is better will agree and thank you for doing what you did. Just think of what could have happened if you had not convinced him to get the help he needs. Is he going to cooperate and stay or is this just a 72 hour hold?
COMMUNITY LEADER
Oh yes. This is the best thing for HIM. I'm sure he does not like feeling the way he does. Sometimes in the midst of an emotional break down ------- well not even sometimes----------- always in the midst of an emotional break down it is impossible to rationalize and think clearly. He wasn't in a position to make a good decision for himself. This really HAD to happen and was the absolute best thing for him. What if he tried to committ suicide and you hadn't done anything? That would be much harder to live with.
He will have a long road ahead of him getting back on his feet. I think you remain supportive from a distance and as he heals emotionally and becomes healthy in terms of his mental stability, you can consider what to do about the relationship then. You have to stay safe and keep your children safe.
Yes. You did the best thing. good luck. (hope you have somewhere safe to go and someone to help you in the next period of time.)
He will have a long road ahead of him getting back on his feet. I think you remain supportive from a distance and as he heals emotionally and becomes healthy in terms of his mental stability, you can consider what to do about the relationship then. You have to stay safe and keep your children safe.
Yes. You did the best thing. good luck. (hope you have somewhere safe to go and someone to help you in the next period of time.)
Tazzy, you absolutely did the right thing. If he couldn't even "hold it together" for a short doctor visit and his behavior was so extreme that he's now hospitalized against his will, he's in BAD shape. That's bad.
Even if he doesn't forgive you for this, you may have saved your life and your kid's lives.
Best wishes.
Even if he doesn't forgive you for this, you may have saved your life and your kid's lives.
Best wishes.
i just feel so guilty for doing this i know he needs the help but now he thinks that was my plan all along and is really upset at me telling me that i only want to get rid of him when all i really want is for us to be happy again like we were when we first got together
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