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[ani1991]

Well i met this guy at work. he started talking to me. he are pretty cool and he likes to flirt alot. We learn alot about each other and i met some friends of his. we started going out and finally we had sex. We continued this until one day somebody call me private telling me that he was marry and he has a kid. i confronted him and he didn't denied it. He said that he has been having trouble with his wife and they weren't no longer together. We stop talking for a while but he kept looking for me. and just recently i found out his wife is pregnant with his child. i dont know what to do.

[Londres70]

Hon, the answer is clear......leave him be.  It may not be easy to do, but it is the thing to do.  You are being used.  

You are NO idiot.....you made a mistake and now you can make this right.

It is obvious he didn't leave his wife and he probably isn't going to.  

In my opinion a married man with a baby on the way isn't attractive and it sure sounds messy in regards to trying to have a relationship with him.  

I am sure he was having sex with you and his wife as most men in these situations do....."having his cake and eating it too"

I wouldn't recommend letting things go beyond simple chatting in your workplace.  It's difficult to stay businesslike when coworkers are personally involved and that's not fair to the employer.  Plus, if things don't work out you will have to deal with that person in a work environment and possibly with the gossip from other coworkers.  A lot of businesses have policies against this and for good reason.  Personally, I never befriend anyone at work; they aren't involved in my private life whatsoever.  I have a good work environment, I am cordial and businesslike to them and then I go home.

Learn from this and move on.  Just make sure you know who you are dealing with before going all the way with him.

[Chima7]

I agree. It's time for you to get mad at him and don't let him back into your life. He sounds like a total snake. I strongly to suggest you stay away from him and tell him very firmly to leave you alone.

You have to be really careful about getting involved with people you work with because it could result in any number of workplace problems. This is not the time to be out of a job. Stand up for yourself and don't let anyone treat you like this again. You have to be your own advocate because you're the only one who has (or should have) your best interest at heart.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  Well, if he found out his wife is pregnant with his child, that would mean that they ARE still together, right?  That they do still have intercourse.  he has a child and a wife and another child on the way.  and he is pretty disgusting for cheating on them.  Don't let him use you.  Tell him you have higher standards for yourself (and you should sweetie . . .  you don't need a guy like this) and that you hope he cleans up his act for the sake of his family.

This should make you mad.  That he dragged you into his family drama.  Don't be the other woman-----  find a guy unattached that is free to love you and be yours.  This guy isn't and you should NOT want someone like this.  

good luck dear