At what age is too old for a daughter to kiss her dad on the lips?

[inneedofhelp91]

I have been dating this guy for almost 2 years now. His daughter is almost 17 years old. She cuddles with him on the couch, kissing on his shoulder, kissing on his arms, rubbing on his stomach. She was lying on the couch with him, she had her head on his lap and he was rubbing her back. She laid there for hours that day. She kisses him on the lips before she goes to bed at night. She runs around the house in her bra and underwear all time. She is even now starting to run upstairs naked while her dad sits on the couch and can clearly see her running upstairs. She says "Daddy" dont look im naked. And yes she still calls him "Daddy", and talks like a baby around him. It drives me crazy when she does this. I have tried talking to my bf about this and he just says she is "Daddy's" little girl and always will be. I feel I always will be second best to her. I mean I have been putting up with it for 2 years now. I raised one daughter of my own and I have never ever saw anything like this. My bf says it is normal for a daughter to kiss and rub all over her "daddy", I told him no its not normal for a daughter at her age to do this. She even came into his bedroom not too long ago and crawled in bed with us. Laying her head on her daddy's shoulder, then she started kissing it. I got up and left the bedroom. I refuse to sit there while this is going on. I cant take it. It freaks me out.  

[samiam403]

Ok people so she stated there is nothing sexual going on soooo moving on.To me I think it is normal for them to kiss on the lips.just a QUICK PECK.but to me the rubbing and all that is not normal.she's 17,she knows somewhat about sex and I'm pretty sure she gets "feelings" not saying she gets "feelings"with her dad but I just think the rubbing and running around naked ABSOLUTELY needs to be stopped.as well as sleeping with y'all.obviously DADDY does not mind so either you will have to deal witg it OR MOVE ON.

[specialmom]

Hi there.  this is a very old post.  If anyone has a question, please start your own post by going to the top and hitting 'ask a question."  thank you

[LemuelUhuru]

Wow. I wonder where the majority of these comments are coming from. I imagine a peck here there on the fathers lips are not suspect, it didn't occur in my family but I've seen it. There isn't anything wrong with calling your father daddy but what's very concerning is how comfortable they are cuddling together, I mean cuddling with your daughter at 17 is quite weird and her kissing his shoulder and hugging up on him is weird too. Some daughters become in love with their dads in inappropriate ways if the relationship is not checked and boundaries not set, this seems like one that either has or easily can. What's alarming to me though is the amount of people on this thread who only mildly surprised if not all by this behavior.

[specialmom]

This is an old post.  There all sorts of ways that households are run with some being more casual regarding nudity and affection.  Each family must find the balance for themselves and it would be hard as a new partner to walk into a situation that is the norm for that particular family.  I would talk to the father and see if new boundaries can be set up.  And if anyone suspects that there is child molestation going on, they should call the authorities.  good luck

[Ushymama]

Oh my goodness. Are you serious she walks around in her bra and underwear in the house naked and kisses her dad on the lips???? That is just gross and nasty. She is seventeen, grow up!!! If the dad doesn't tel her to stop then he must like it. I think the seventeen year old girl must like it too. That is so gross, like human cruelty or something. Call child service, put them in therapy, something!!!! Where is the real mother of this girl. She sleeps next to her "daddy" too, grosser!!! Who knows what she does with her daddy when your not around???!!!?? Leave him, save yourself!!

[MissmyAngel]

Dear OP
Your stepdaughter is trying to compete with you for your husbands attention. She is taking it a bit too far by running around in the nude.. Maybe have a talk with your husband about the nudity saying it makes you uncomfortable. Honestly I don't think he would be willing to say anything about the cuddling and kissing because he'd be afraid to push her away.
My step daughter did the same thing at that age, although not nearly to that extreme. She toned down once she got a boyfriend,
And now that she's moved out, I finally get the attention lol.