Break-Up

[tslaughter]

Hi I'm 19 years old and my girlfriend of two years and two months just broke up with me out of no where. We were talking (over text message) and then I asked who she went and hung out with the night before, because I kind of have trust issues. Not that she has done anything to not earn my trust. She then says that she can't do this because she can't stand not being able to do anything without me flipping out. She then asks me what I want and I said I just want to make her happy. So pretty much after that is when she broke up with me. I then tried to ask her to give me a second chance but she kept saying that she can't do that, that it would be to difficult for the both of us. This has been the toughest thing I have ever been through, all I want is her back. But I'm not sure if she will come back. I also asked her if we could talk yesterday and she said not right now we need our space first. I just wanna know what you guys think. Will she ever come back to me, if she doesn't how do I move on. She was my longest relationship ever, we were going to get married and spend the rest of our lives together.

[lils25]

Hi there,

Tricky one hun but at this early stage its too hard to direct you in what way it could go but what i do know is you dont now what you have got until its gone ( speaking from experience)

Give her some space,dont text, email, facebook etc....

If she would get back with you, you will find out soon enough when she doesnt hear from you. If she doesnt contact back then maybe she has just outgrown the relationship but if she loves you it will kill her not to speak to you for too long. Best of luck xxx

[specialmom]

My question to you is why do you have this trust issue?  Is it with all women or just her?  Are you insecure and thus try to control your girlfriend and her actions?  This is something to work on within yourself because if it is not addressed from within, it will keep resurfacing in new relationships.  

I don't know if you two will work it out or not but I think I'd do some soul searching as to what exactly went wrong.  She knows you want to work it out-------  and may or may not choose to do so.  Time will tell.  You think about things in terms of your actions and what you need to work on and you will be in a much better place to have a good, solid relationship with her or someone else down the road.

I'm sorry you are in pain.  Keep as busy as possible to distract yourself and excercise is an excellent way to help our overall mood and health.  good luck

[brice1967]

Hey tslaughter,

Been there and done that.  I am considerably older than you are, and that doesnt make me any smarter but perhaps my age adds a bit of wisdom... here me out, and perhaps I can help a bit.  

I know this thing hurts.  You have a lot of things to consider. First off, youre young.  You have your whole life in front of you.  Secondly, and this might be hard to swallow, if she doesnt want to be with you, then it is time to move on.