marriage

[angel_baby_needing_help]

im having so many problems in my marriage all we do is argue.
my husband has a lot of problems and im finding married life so hard.
we hardly have sex anymore and when we do im rarley satisfied this makes me resentful towards him
im begining to wander if this marriage will last i hope so we still love each other but our lives are so complicated.
also we have no money at the moment there is more going out than coming in and this is so stressful because we have 2 kids and xmas is looming round the corner.

[angel_baby_needing_help]

thanks guys what your saying makes a lot of sense thanks.

[treazzure007]

you said it all.  you already have the answers for what's causing the discord and tension.  i have experienced all the same problems at times and it is very very frustrating.  you just have to realize that there's always something.  always going to be something coming or going that's smeared the pretty picture.  marriage isn't going to ever only be about the flowers, candy, and blue skies.  there's a whole lot of other stuff mixed in the pot.  marriage is about accepting the good with the bad and rolling through the good times and the bad ones together.  i know it sounds easier said than done, but when you begin to think this way, you will be able to sustain the downhill slopes

[extrmeski]

Marriage is always very hard.  I find that arguments are a result of the lack of communication which is the foundation of any good marriage.  Most people do not know how to have a discussion without everything getting heated up which results in a fight.  Sit down with him calmly and set-up a discussion with ground rules.  The rules are, no yelling, name calling, and most important no accusations!!  Never start out with the phrase "you always" that is a killer phrase.  
If you set it up  right, you can have a calm mature discussion which will go a long way to providing communication.  Money problems are always stressful.  It is really simle though ..if you face the adversity together as a couple you will grow together, if you try and face it apart you will grow apart..  there will always be adversity.
Let me know how it goes.