emotional connection

[wantingdeeperconnection]

my husband does not look me in the eye during sex. i notice instead he will pull me closer or kiss me to avoid the eye contact. i like enjoying the moments where we're face to face because it makes me feel more emotionally connected. we talked about it and he says the the eye contact makes him feel uncomfortable. he is willing to try and make it better for me so i'm happy about that. i cant find the root problem here so does anyone know about this? or have overcome it in the past and can give me some advice?

[jo929]

hey if its good why worry about the other just enjoy  jo

[imanaddict]

I can't do the eye contact either while in the "act"   I don't really know why, but it makes me feel uncomfortable.

[PromisedLand]

I once had a girlfriend whom when ever we were really into some deep kissing (we were in highschool) she always had her eyes open..I'd temporarily open my eyes and see her eyes staring back and me.....freaky


Jim

[Judy246]

It's not for everyone and it might take away from the moment for some, but I also believe that if it brings to your moment, then tell him what you want.

[mami1323]

He told you why, he said it makes him uncomfortable.  I think kissing is just as intimate and passionate.  You need to respect that and know that it doesn't mean there is some deep seeded issues here, he finds it uncomfortable, point blank.  My fiance will look at each other for a few seconds and then kiss or close our eyes.  I know most of the time my eyes are closed so I can focus on the pleasure.  I don't think you have much of a problem here.

Haha, I just read mego's comment, we think alike.

[megochick101]

I personally do not like looking into each others eyes while having sex. it just creeps me out lol yes the occasional look is great but to constantly look into each others eyes bothers me, especially while kissing. I like eyes closed while kissing so i can focus on the sensations. I have a hard enough time concentrating so i like to close my eyes and just feel. Maybe your husband is the same way? I also want to say it has nothing to do with my husband, it's not like i don't find him attractive I just feel weird staring into someones eyes for 30 mintues lol

[PromisedLand]

he could be looking away, closing his eyes trying to prevent the proceedings from ending too soon (you know thinking about train wrecks, what size oil filter he needs for the car)...I personally will look in my partner's eyes, tough to do while kissing while making love which my wife loves, or looking at her body as we're in the "act" which most of the will sadly quickly bring an end to the proceedings.


Jim

[Judy246]

Men are not as emotionally connected as we are (sorry to the guys who are warm and fuzzy!), but I don't see a problem. You are married, sharing intimacy and because he doesn't look at you, you are concerned.  Tell him that you want more eye contact during intimacy, if he doesn't, it does not mean that he loves you less or is not enjoying your intimacy, that's just the way some men are.  I personally love making love and having us look at each other during the act, but the reality is he is not like that and not in his personality, so, enjoy the moment and don't look too deep in to why he doesn't make eye contact. He's just enjoying the moment.  Judy