Yes, things will calm down. Your job is to remind your husband of this incident when he looks like he is wanting to drink again. He is someone now that can directly affect you and if he gets out of control with anger either drinking or otherwise, you need to take that seriously.
But this will blow over and hopefully all will learn a lesson from it. By that, I don't mean your parents as they sound like the will always handle things the same old way.
Good luck.
Yes, they've always treated her this way. But that doesn't bother me cause Im quite happy of where I'm at today. as for drinking of course you regret things after they've gone badly. It goes for any situation. Things were great till one thing set my husband off. He realizes that now, and says he's not going to drink, but only time will tell. I think my sister left because I'd called my parents over and she didn't want them to see her that way. No one will ever know. She can't remember a single thing. A week has passed and things are finally calming down. I guess it will just take time.
Oh boy. This is a good example of why people need to not get drunk. Your sister AND your husband. Sounds like everyone behaved badly. I think if a drunk destroys your house after you sat drinking with them . . . well, isn't that the risk you take? I'm guessing you already see that too and know your husband was a bit kooky that night. Do you think your husband's explosion of anger that night frightened your sister? Was she scared of him?
But ultimately, anytime someone that is drunk gets behind the wheel--------- THEY make the choice to do it and must pay their own consequences. Your sister drove drunk and got caught. That is the risk you take when you choose to drive drunk no matter why you did it.
But really, I'd recommend that all of you resist the urge to drink. Alcohol certainly messed up things here . . . not worth it, is it?
I think your husband can apologize if he was out of line without taking blame for the dui. Your parents blame him because that is easier to do than be mad at their own daughter. But sometimes these bad situations are actually wake up calls and lead to better choices next time.
good luck
Have your parents always treated your sister like a blameless child?