My Boyfriend Has Some Type Of Mental Disorder?

[JennyG043]

My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months now, and I've noticed some strange behaviors. He is 15-years old and has extremely gruesome dreams that sicken him so much he avoids sleeping as much as possible and is always exhausted. These night terrors include him torturing and killing random people in horrible ways, I was worried about these but he seems genuinely disgusted with himself for having these dreams. He thinks very erractically and shakes after he wakes from these dreams. Not only this, but he is also quick to get angry over minute things such as one instance where I fell asleep and didn't text him for a few hours causing him to go into a panic and look up recent accidents to see if I had died while texting him and driving. After texting him back, he was furious that I had fallen asleep instead of talking to him. He also dwells a lot on what has happened in his past and it bothers him often. He often cries about the horrible things his ex-girlfriend did to him and recollects many very bad memories that puts him in a severe shut down state of depression, one time he even asked me to kill him while in this broken state. I think he needs to find someone who can help him with these episodes because I just hate seeing him hurt so much and I know there has to be a psychological root to all this. He has tried opening up to his parents but they are not understanding and threatened to disown him and send him to a mental institution. He also suffers from severe paranoia, such as when he sleeps he always sleeps closest to the wall and always faces towards the door in case anything tries to get him in the night. He also keeps a knife under his pillow and and few pillows under a blanket next to him to mimic another person. He is terrified every night and refuses sleep as long as possible, I just want him to stop hurting and be able to live happily and healthy without fearing for his life every night, please help.

[Nighthawk61]

I'm not sure whether this is possible for you (him) but in Canada where there is no payment required, the best thing to do in this case would be for him to go to the hospital and ask to be admitted into the Psych ward, where he would receive all the care he needed. I'm sorry that his parents seem to be so unreasonable. That in itself can have a huge impact on him no doubt. However, he is 15 and should still be covered (hopefully) by their insurance, that would allow him to access a hospital's psych ward. I actually had to have my husband admitted into a psych ward at the hospital, because he couldn't sleep and it caused bouts of paranoid schizophrenia. He was placed on a 72 hour hold, but ended up staying for 10 days while they worked with getting him on "Seroquel" that allowed him to develop proper sleep patterns. Lack of sleep can cause huge problems for a person. I really think this would be his best bet for getting himself feeling better. I'm here if you need to talk.

[Nighthawk61]

Also, if he is drinking or smoking dope, or any other drugs, this will only serve to exacerbate the problems he's having, so if he is doing so, he needs to stop. Being in a hospital setting, being honest and allowing them to help him curb any bad habits would serve him best.

[Nighthawk61]

If he has the option of getting this kind of help, and he refuses to do so, you need to give him an "intervention" and let him know that you will only support him if he accesses help, otherwise your life will be spent dealing with these problems that will get worse, not better, over time.  Hopefully you are planning on a post secondary education yourself, and expect that your partner, and friends will do the same. Without getting the help he needs, he puts your natural progression to greatness, as well as his own at risk. Please check out what "Intervention" means. Not only does it work with drug/alcohol substance abuse problems, but also with problems with mental illness. Persons with mental illness that do not receive the help they need, are far more likely to have substance abuse issues. Be VERY CAREFUL - NOT- to go down THAT ROAD.  i DID AND RUINED YEARS AND YEARS OF MY LIFE (AND MY SON'S) FOR MANY MANY YEARS. I WOULDN'T WISH THAT ON MY WORST ENEMY.

[RockRose]

The fact that he is angry at you for falling asleep and not texting him back immediately is justification for you to walk away.  Best wishes - he's a mess,  and he's not a mess you caused.  

[RockRose]

Honey,  you don't have to keep trying to help him.  He's not your brother or  your son.  He's someone you have met,  and you have the right to walk on past and not be responsible for him.  

I know you have a soft and tender heart,  but you aren't required to do this.  This relationship will suck all the life and joy out of you.  

[RockRose]

He's 15 and you are 16.  

Can you seek help from your school counselor?  

[JennyG043]

Tried, no help, set up a meeting last week and they weren't there on two occasions. He also doesn't trust them so he doesn't tell them much. Anything else? :/

[wayneOFgotham]

Thats so so so sad. I cannot stress enough this is not right at all. He needs serious mental help and i feel hes a danger to you. Go to his school and talk to the councellor there talk to his teachers get him help right away. The school cna help if the parents wont.