How long before I start dating again

Question

I recently ended a 4 year relationship with a man I was very much in love with because he wasn't ready for marriage or a family and he wasn't sure he would ever want to get married.  He also was not affectionate very often, especially when I needed him.  

I'm depressed and hurting but I'm also hopeful I will find someone who does want the same things out of life that I do....travel, affection, a child, and a family.    How long before I should start dating again.  An old friend asked me out and I feel comfortable meeting him and I don't really feel guilty (because my ex knows I would take him back in a heartbeat if he could provide me with affection and love and a real commitment but he won't give me the things I need.)

Judy246 · Answer

Awww...it will take time and we all have been in your shoes. Not an easy process and feels pretty crummy. Take some time to just think and reflect, but if the right opportunity comes along, it's ok to just go out. You are the decision maker in your life and do what is best for you and what feels right. You might not realize it right now, but you are on the road to recovery.  Judy

fltricia · Answer

Hopefully going out with someone else will make me feel better.  But it sure stinks having a broken heart.

Judy246 · Answer

Sorry, me and my typos'...I meant, "It's so difficult when you easily open your heart and offer unconditional love and not have that love returned"....so, what this all means it's ok  to move forward...go for it!

Judy246 · Answer

It's so diffficult when you easily oppen your heart and offer unconditionally and that love is not returned or have someone who is just not ready for a committed relationship or to take it to a higher level. Sometimes, they realized also that you are not the one, when you feel that he is the one for you. It's hurtful and it takes time to heal, but if your feel you are ready to take a step to move forward with your life, then do so. You are not married and no longer in ths relationship and you can start dating when you are ready and comfortable with the next person.

I say, go for it! :) Judy

iam1butterfly · Answer

When you're in a healthy emotional space, you'll be ready...

tinydreams22 · Answer

It really depends on you. On one hand, dating would probably take your mind off of it, on the other, you probably don't want to rush into a new relationship so soon. I'd say go out, have fun, and flirt! ;]

Good luck with everything! :D

jo929 · Answer

whenever you feel like it, if the ex says anything tell him why you started dating again 4 years is to long whan you know nothing will come of it   luck  jo ps do not just jump into m,arriage tho  luck  jo

imanaddict · Answer

It all depends on you and how you feel about it. If you are comfortable going out with a friend, I would recommend it. This is a time where you should be going out and having fun to help you forget your problems. Just because you go on a date with someone does not mean you have to jump into a relationship with them. Test the waters to see what's out there. You may find yourself pleasantly surprised!