I TOTALLY agree with AHP84!!
This is about YOUR rescue!!
I'm alarmed that You still feel You are "in love" with Him. This is not love, HoneyGirl, as Love is NOT Painful, Hurtful or Unkind!!
It matters not that You now say the "mark on Your neck didn't hurt, it might have but You were too SCARED to notice". Fact is, He should NEVER put an agressive hand to You. And You should NEVER, be scared of the Person You are in love with. This is an unhealthy relationship and is potentially dangerous to You.
You should seek therapy to understand why You would feel YourSelf to be in love with someone who mistreats You in this manner - so that next time You make a better choice in love - that You choose someone who values You (as we all deserve)
I have been married for 28 years. My Husband and I have disagreed, been
annoyed, etc., but He has NEVER laid a hand on me and He has NEVER called me a mean, dirty or hateful name (as it should be!!) A Mature, Healthy Person takes Responsibility for His own action, reaction to any given situation and does not blame the other person for His reaction. People who truely Love One Another do not demean One another. You both need to learn this before You get hurt any more. AHP84 is also correct when She tells You these situations never get better in time - they only escalate with time.
Please take care of YourSelf. You should tell Your Parents He has become physical with You and Your belongings. Good Luck
Rachel, the last of your concerns should be him right now. You want to change him, "rescue" him. That's not realistic or healthy for either of you, especially you.
You are defending his abuse of rape and battery. You think it didn't hurt but if it left a mark, the only thing that kept you from feeling pain was adrenaline. He WILL get worse, more aggressive, and more brutal with his blows. He will.
My advice is to ask him to do nothing but leave you alone, and take the measures to make him leave you alone immediately. I can't stress this enough.
Then you focus on your therapy. When you realize that you can function without him and his abuse, you're on the road to recovery and healing and a true HEALTHY relationship.
Love is nothing likewise he's treated you. Please don't convince yourself that it is.
He is beyond your "help." There is nothing anyone can do for him, especially you, except himself and his parents if he is still a minor by law. If not, then he has to realize his own mistakes and seek help himself, knowing he has problems that only he can address.
Hes never hurt me physically. The mark on my neck didnt hurt, it might have been but i was to scared to notice. I just want to help him, would it be a bad idea to bring him to my future therapy sessions? should i ask him to go to a sex addiction or anger management classes? how do you bring this up?
His aggression sounds concerning enough to suspect he's using steroids to get back into sports.
You need to get this guy out of your life before he rapes and beats you to a pulp or even to death. He's already raping you. I am serious. What do your patents say about him? What do his parents say about his behavior towards you?
You need to cut all contact with him immediately. Block his number from your phone and file for a restraining order the moment he makes a verbal or physical threat to you. Have him arrested if he lays a hand on you or violates the restraining order.
You need to seek help as soon as possible too to deal with your past molestation issues and your current co-dependency issues to him. This is a textbook case of battered women, to feel like they owe their abuser their lives to control, beat, and have their way with. There is help out there for you that you desperately need ASAP and you CAN live your life without this scumbag.
You do need help. Help in seeing how quickly you need to get away from this guy and give yourself some respect!