I'm not able to make love to my husband

[swati_tyagi]

Hi,
I'm an asian married for 1.5 yrs now. We had a courtship period of an year. I've had no problems with my husband but yes with his mom. Since last few months things have been so problematic, that i'm not able to make love with him. I don't feel like caring for him anymore. I feel dettached. At times I think, may be i'm under some kind of depression. Feel like leaving everything and go back to my parents place.
Please help. I don't know what should I do.

[Judy246]

also, ask your husband to speak with on how best to respectfully resolve any issues between you and her in a manner that will be effective and cordial, that way you will be able to develope a positive relationship with her, yet at a distance where she will not interefere with you or your marriage. My future mother is law is fantastic, but she has a side that I know that it will be necessary to be there for her, but not have her cross that line between me and my fiance. Once you speak with your husband and have some type of understanding, you will be able to open up to him for whom he is your loving husband. Good Luck

[Judy246]

Welcome to the world of marriage. You have only been arried 1 1/2 now and I thinks it's completely unfair to take out your anger and fustration on your husband, because of your mother in law. I understand the difference in cultures and how a mother-in-laws role is like a teacher, but if mother-in-law is causing problems, it's time to learn how to communicate effectively with your husband and "discuss" your concerns over your mother-in-law. Let him deal with her and have a talk with her and you step back. If mother in law is effecting you in the bedroom, then it's time to get the ghost of mother in law out and out of your mind. Do not permit her to get into your mind in such a way, that you can not function. No one deserves that and no one should tolerate it.

Mother-in-law is the cause of your depression, but do not punish your husband! Time to resolve the issues and put the burden on your husband to take care of matters and ask that she respect his wife. Good Luck. Judy