In love w/a married man

[wannabefree330]

I have been involved with a married man for a little over a year.  At the time we met, he told me he was very unhappily married and was only with his wife for the sake of his children.  He is afraid that if he leaves his wife will take the kids and he'll never see them again.  In March, he told me he was going to give his marriage another shot, and commit to trying to make it work.  That meant no longer seeing me.  If at the end of the 6mo he still felt the same, he would file for divorce.  Of course i was devastated at his decision, but love him enough where I want him to be happy.  Before march we would see eachother at least 3 times a week.  The sex is phenomenal and unlike anything i've ever experienced.  We have complete open communication and i think that is why it is so amazing.  Since March, we have seen and slept with eachother several times.  He says he still loves me but is still going to complete the 6mo he committed to.  We text and talk to eachother every day and he tells me daily how he misses me.  I miss him and being with him.  I feel like he is my soul mate.  He has encouraged me to date other people, but gets very jealous when I even mention talking to other men.  He does not get angry, but communicates and tries even more when he knows i'm tlk'g to other guys.  I still feel committed to him, and hope that someday we can be together.
Am I crazy?  Will this ever materialize?  I told him I would wait till hell freezes over to be with him.  Anyone with similar circumstances?

[nyychic]

I will say it again women need to stick together if you don't want your man cheatin' on you than don't mess with a man that is spoken for.  HELLO get a grip.  Not worth your time

[momagain59]

Am I crazy?  Will this ever materialize?  I told him I would wait till hell freezes over to be with him.  Anyone with similar circumstances?

Yes, you are crazy. This guy says he is going to stick with the 6 month plan to work on his marriage. This is BS, he doesn't sound like he is working too hard if he is having sex with other women. He has probaly just started screwing around with someone else also. This will give him time to decide who he wants to have sex with. If you told him that you are willing to wait till hell freezes over, why should he worry about leaving his wife? When are women going to wake up and realize that married men use them as free prostitutes? I bet he doesn't have to spend much taking you out and sex probaly has to be quick and easy because there isn't much time.

How long has he been married?

Please don't tell me that you are his first fling.

[jo929]

I do not know your age, but you must be very young, or very insecure, to try and take your happiness at the exspense of someone else, and the children involved, What teko said is right on the nose, what goes around comes around, it would take a very selfish woman to go behind an others back ,and try and steal her husband, and hurt the children  in doing so he is using  you, also how can you look at yourself in the mirror, people like you are not in demand . I also think a man that would do this is not worth having so maybe you both are 2 of a kind  I really do not care how old you are,, i feel you are old enough to know better   jo      

[BearHitch]

1.  Like previously stated, if he cheated on his wife with you, he is going to cheat on you.  When will women learn this???

2.  I agree with Jo- find a single man!  There are plenty out there, you don't need to be screwing around with someone who is married and kids.  It says equal amounts of your character and his - or lack thereof.  

3.  Yes you are crazy thinking he is going to leave.  He says he wants a 6 month break but he is still texting you while "trying to work it out with his wife."  

4.  He is not your soul mate- he is someone else's.  The woman he is married to.  

[mami1323]

There isn't much more to say then what these women have said.  I'm sure there isn't one man who was cheating on his wife that wouldn't tell his mistress that he was so happy with his wife.  They all say they are unhappy to keep women like you stringing along for as long as possible.  With this unrealistic hope that they will leave their wife and kids.  Oh and it's always that they don't want to leave because they fear the wife will take the kids....ha!  How would you feel if you were married and some woman knew about you but still thought it was ok to sleep with your husband?  What break?  He hasn't taken a break from you to work on his marriage.  He's still seeing you and you keep giving in.  Even if he did leave, which he won't, but let's say he did, is that how you want to start off your relationship?  Who's to say he won't cheat on you if he so easily did it with the woman he made vows with and shares children with.  Get some strength and stop messing around with someone else's family.  

[wannabefree330]

I know and understand what you are saying.  It all sounds so cruel and I just needed some sound advice.  Remember when I met him he was separated and not with his wife.  It was never my intention to 'steal him away'  I have avoided his calls and last time we spoke i told him it was not fair for him to do that to his wife and I apologized for being involved.  I had fallen in love with him before he ever reconciled with her and i'm sorry if it is so difficult to fall out of love with him.  But the distance is good and in time i guess it will happen.  Can I just suggest that in the future all of those who responded not be so rude about it?  We are already feeling guilty and just  want the advice of someone that is in their right mind on how to deal with this and cut the ties.  If we knew how to do that, we wouldn't be on here???  I'm sorry i even posted a question here asking for help and will not suggest this site to ANYONE.