DITTO SM, Chima and Tink.
Get out of this and MOVE on. This is totally unhealthy and toxic.
Honestly, I'm not sure this is a relationship I'd want t salvage. Just being honest.
I don't understand why You needed/wanted so much confirmation of what You saw with Your very own eyes - (??!!??)
You knew He was lying to You when He insisted that You didn't see what You saw !! He's telling You "don't believe Your own lying eyes") yet You pursued this until You got the 'truth' from Her. You KNOW what You saw and it was VERY bold, controlling of Him to deny it ( I can't even think of words STRONG enough to describe His denial - so bold and controlling will have to do) when He KNOWS You saw Him !!
So - He cheats, He lies, He withholds sex......and You love Him why?? ??
You deserve better treatment than this. This I know is true.
Regards,
Tink
He was punishing you before he cheated by withholding intimacy from you. Then he cheated on you with his 2nd cousin (gross). Now he continues to punish you by withholding intimacy claiming that it's your fault that he cheated in the first place. This guy is a piece of work. He's not your boyfriend. He's not even a friend.
There is no relationship here, just some guy punishing you for some reason and you continuing to sit there and take it. I think you should stop being his doormat and move on. He will never be the thoughtful caring boyfriend that you want to have, he will always be what he is right now. That makes for a very miserable and unhappy life for you, the longer you stay with him.
Hi, been there my self and these images will continue as long as your with him. If you decide to leave (i would and did) they will gradually disappear and end up in your later years as bad dreams. This is the tragety of being innocent victims as we suffer endlessly over the selfish acts of some one we love and trust.