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Is she lying.

I was friends with this girl for a year before we went out. She was quite ill during the relationship, has been tested for cancer a few times till they eventually found out what was wrong with her. and it put pressure on our relationship and I felt like I couldn't handle it so I split up with her. We were sort of togehter after we broke up but then I started seeing someone else a few weeks later.  I really like this new girl a lot. Anyway a few weeks later, she comes to me and tells me she's pregnant. She showed me the pregnancy test which she said she had taken before she left her house to come and see me and she said she'd be happy to take a pregnancy test in front of me, but by this time the stores were closed so we would have had to wait till tomorrow. I said I wouldn't believe anything till she had had a blood test and I wanted to be there when she had it done. But the next day she went to the doctors clinic to book it in and they said she could have it done straight away and I wasn't around.
Then she came over to my house and said she had the blood test, and also was feeling confused because she came on her period. but it was really light.
Then that evening the doctor phoned her and said that there were really small traces of the pregnancy hormone in her body and thought she may have suffered a chemical pregnancy (an early miscarriage that u don't realise is happening basically) but she would need an ultrasound to confirm it. She immeditely sent me a text explaining what the doctor had said, and asked me if I wanted to go to the doctor with her to have an ultrasound to find out what was going on. I said no because I didn't believe her. Then she had a go at me when she saw me, saying this was both our mess regardless, and she wanted my support through it because she wanted me to take responsibility too. The next day she mailed me doctors letters proving what happened and also gave me the number of a friend who was there when she took one of the pregnancy tests, to prove it had turned positive within minutes. I dont know what to do. She has been quite ill this year, and i have been to the hospital with her a few times when we were sitll going out when she needed to go, so it does seem like a coincidence. can anyone offer advice,?
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If she was willing to prove everything and anything to you then there is no reason to doubt her.  I'm not sure what you're looking for with your question but if you want us to relieve you of some guilt you're feeling, that's not going to happen here.  She has feelings for you and wanted you to help her through this but if you didn't feel the need to support her then that was your decision.  It would've made you a better man but in the end she might have been too much of a thorn in your side and you obviously didn't want that since you started a new relationship.  Quite selfish I would say but hey, you can't make someone feel something and do something they don't want to do.  But I wouldn't doubt her story, it sounds legitimate.
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oh also I swear that the condom never broke! and she never told me she came off birth control but she says she had to for her other health problems.
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