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Is she telling me the truth?
So I have a gf I've been with for a little over a year. We had a great relationship but lately she's been a lot different because she says I'm not intimate with her anymore and that I don't show her much attention anymore and she was scared about our future. To make a long story short. She went out last night. She got drunk of course and I wanted to pick her up but she wanted to stay out. I fell asleep and she messaged me asking to pick her up at about midnight. Well I woke up at 3 and realized she wasn't home yet. Couldn't get a hold of her and she called me at 5 am asking me to pick her up at her friends house. Of course my first assumption is that she is cheating on me. This is not like her. She's never done anything like this and it just blind sided me. I packed all of her things up and put them in the living room before I brought her back home. She was very surprised and said I shouldn't have done that. I straight up asked her if she cheated on me. She said no of course not and that she went to her friends house who I've never met and fell asleep there. She asked me what I wanted to do and I said I didn't know. She started crying and apologized swearing she didn't do anything and that she is very sorry for what she did...and that she needs me. I'm torn. I love her with all my heart and soul but I don't know if 1) she's telling me the truth about what happened and 2) if I should give her the benefit of the doubt because she's never done anything like this before...she wanted to have sex with me when she got back but I told her no way...because I was so angry. Do I let her go? Could she really have just gone to her friends house and fallen asleep or am I an idiot for believing this story? Any thoughts?
But what you guys dont realize is i tried to tell her id pick her up like 4 times around 11 pm but she said no and shed find a way home. Then at 2 am my sister en who is her friend who was with her most of the night texted her and asked where she was and she replied home...which she obviously wasn't. I also got a call from my gf at 3am and it was dead air yet she was sleeping?? Something doesnt add up here
YOU are totally over reacting. How old are you? you both sound immature. alcohol was involved and you both are probably too young to be so serious.
don't live together- date but not exclusively-- and don't have sex without protection. both of you have a lot of growing up to do.
don't live together- date but not exclusively-- and don't have sex without protection. both of you have a lot of growing up to do.
Whoa....I think your imagination is getting the best of you. Packing her things before she came back.....why? I will agree that wasn't the best move. Considering how late it was and she had been drinking I think that her story is pausible. Ok, so you never met the friend that doesn't mean anything happened at her friend's home. Is the friend a male or female? Plus, you fell asleep and she was trying to get a hold of you. She can't stay at the bar or club all night. I don't understand why she didn't have this friend bring her directly home though.
I just think you overreacted and you both need to talk BEFORE making any more rash decisions.
Cut her some slack especially since she has never done this before. I mean, she makes one wrong move and you are packing her belongings WITHOUT an explaination? I don't think you are being fair to her.
You all need to have a serious talk about where you relationship is going.
I just think you overreacted and you both need to talk BEFORE making any more rash decisions.
Cut her some slack especially since she has never done this before. I mean, she makes one wrong move and you are packing her belongings WITHOUT an explaination? I don't think you are being fair to her.
You all need to have a serious talk about where you relationship is going.
I think the story must have lost something in translation.
About midnight, she asked you to pick her up and take her home but you slept through that message and didn't get it until 3 a.m. It's likely she was sleeping (passed out) by that time - 3 hours after her original request to be picked up -
Then she called you at 5, asking to be picked up at a friend's house, where she was, and sure enough she was there when you got there.
How do you go from that to thinking she cheated on you?
From her perspective, I'd be a little aggravated that you left her without a ride home and stranded her, when you knew she was intoxicated and the agreement (it sounds like) was that you would come get her.
About midnight, she asked you to pick her up and take her home but you slept through that message and didn't get it until 3 a.m. It's likely she was sleeping (passed out) by that time - 3 hours after her original request to be picked up -
Then she called you at 5, asking to be picked up at a friend's house, where she was, and sure enough she was there when you got there.
How do you go from that to thinking she cheated on you?
From her perspective, I'd be a little aggravated that you left her without a ride home and stranded her, when you knew she was intoxicated and the agreement (it sounds like) was that you would come get her.
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