Is your partner entitled to your Social Media,Phone, Email passwords?

[specialmom]

How do you feel about this topic?  Are your partners entitled to everything including passwords and full access to all of your online communication?

[Countrymorninggirl]

If there's trust in the relationship, your partner won't want access. It works both ways. I can care less if my husband has access to mine and he feels the same because there is nothing to hide. ;)

[Nighthawk61]

Thought provoking question... Like you, I'm not sure that until something happens that a partner cannot be trusted, passwords etc should not ever be an issue. My husband can't use a computer, no face book, i have to retell him how to use the functions on his phone... that being said, when we first got together there was an issue of infidelity, and he copped to it very early on in the indiscretion (which is why we got by it). I think there are men that are untrustworthy and it takes time to find that out, i'm not sure that expecting every partner in a relationship to show passwords etc would uncover partners that are into subterfuge. Cheaters will find  a way to cheat.  Common sense is important. If a married partner finds it necessary to regularly go out with single friends to clubs drinking, etc. I wouldn't accept that. That would be the beginning of my trying to track his every move, and life is too short.. I think i might set my partner up with a friend that comes on to him when he's out and about, if this were the case. Someone to watch him while he's out with his single friends and see what comes of it.

[ZonnyC]

That's true.

[Countrymorninggirl]

Lol! Me too, I have to retell my husband over and over again how everything works on his phone. Not so much the computer though, just once in awhile. Too funny.

[ZonnyC]

I have my accounts and my husband has his and we don't know each others' passwords.  It's not an issue for us, but I know for some couples this is a big issue.  Everyone is entitled to some privacy and I don't think it's necessary that my husband shares all his passwords and accounts with me.  

[specialmom]

I agree that people are entitled to their privacy.  If someone gives you reason to be suspicious then one of two things is needed A. a frank discussion about these feelings and concerns within the relationship or B. help for the person who is paranoid for no reason.  So, feeling like you need to snoop is a symptom of other issues that need to be addressed in my opinion.  

[ZonnyC]

Exactly.  In most of the cases where someone is demanding or wanting access to his or her partner's accounts without a need to have it there is usually trust issues involved.  I used to be that woman who wanted to know every move my partners made, etc., and it boiled down to trust issues.  In the end my gut was correct.  These men weren't trustworthy or shouldn't have been trusted.  It finally lead me to come to terms with that I was choosing partners that weren't honest people in the first place.  I got that situation sorted out which took me years.  I met my husband in 2008 who was NOTHING like anyone who I've ever dated and said to myself "this is a good, honest one."  I feel NO need to check his phone, emails or wonder where he has been.  There was one incident in the beginning of our relationship that I felt compelled to check his emails just because he left his browser open and I saw something that looked suspicious.  It ended up being nothing.

[specialmom]

So, I have an archaic husband and he doesn't really have social media.  No facebook or anything like that.  I don't have passwords.  He doesn't offer and I don't ask.  He doesn't have mine.  Or care.  LOL  We're like an old married couple (okay, we ARE an old married couple) but I know social media can cause a lot of issues and makes it easy for connection with others outside of the marriage.  I think if my husband were super active with that, I'd maybe want to be a part of it.  

That's just my thoughts.  

[WonderousTeacher1992]

I am not sure about passwords, but when I was in a relationship, I had access to my fiance's social media accounts. I would just go onto them from his phone. I knew his lock code. A lot of women think that they have to pressure their husbands or boyfriends for their passwords.  That is not true. Things like that are given naturally. I never pressured any of ex's for their passwords because they always allowed me access to their stuff.